Midlife Manifest Fifties Wisdom Week Six: Done is Better Than Perfect

Stop letting perfection stop action.

The fear of not getting it right, i.e., perfect, is probably the #1 issue that blocks my clients from manifesting the life they want. I’ve had three conversations with midlife manifesters in the past few days that connected directly to this. I too have to check myself on this blocker. Here’s how to pull yourself off that ledge:

  • Declutter…ditch physical clutter to ditch mental clutter. Clear a closet or even a drawer of what no longer serves you. Try it. You’ll be pleasantly surprised at how much this helps your getting clarity.
  • Remind yourself of your imperfect wins (and they’re ALL imperfect). One of the blessings of midlife is that we have many years of experiences that we can look back on and see that most of what we worried ourself crazy or stuck over, never happened. Or if it did, it usually wasn’t as bad as we feared.
  • Stay (mostly) focused on YOUR BIG GET. Missteps will happen. Focus on the ‘step’, not the ‘mis’. Learn from it and keep stepping!
  • Embrace the journey instead of fearing it. I said ‘mostly’ above, because there is so much richness on the path. Richness that lights you up (joy). Richness that pains you (lesson). Richness that lands you on a completely different path and still lands you exactly where you’re meant to be.
  • Stop trying to do it alone. Stay in your lane AND build your highway. My BIG GET is coaching as many midlife women as possible to living their personal brand of freedom. My gift is coaching. The backend stuff to get my message out is not. (Soooo NOT!) When I started, I did everything…imperfectly and often felt upside like the pic above. Yes, I fell off track at times, but I got back on and kept it moving. Now, I’m building and expanding my highway by hiring professionals who do their lane well so I can stay in mine! NOTHING’s more valuable than my faith, my time, and my health. Paying to fill in my skill gaps supports ALL of that and is worth every penny!

My path has been crooked (Have mercy!), but, “I wouldn’t take nothing for my journey.” (Maya).

Who do you learn best from? Someone who’s life has been a crystal stair? Who’s path has always been straight and has only experienced everything working out right for them??

Or someone who’s risen above ‘way out no way’ circumstances, poor choices, left turns and has a testimony from tests??

Don’t let wanting to be perfect keep you stuck. Let wanting to be FREE move you forward!

Done IS better than perfect.



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Midlife Manifest Fifties Wisdom Week Five: Stop Hiding…Share Your ShXt

Hello Beautiful!

Getting straight to the point…Stop hiding. Share your shXt.

You may have been raised like I was, under the mandate: “What goes in this house, stays in this house.” I took that so seriously that I didn’t even share when I was on my cycle until I was well in my twenties!

But the cost of hiding and suppressing is steep. I found that out in my mid-forties when my body tried to stroke out and I spent five days in the hospital. Through coaching, therapy, and continual self-assessment, I learned to lay my burdens down in prayer, with professionals, trusted friends, and even social media.

As Brené Brown eloquently asserts, the right to your vulnerability must be earned. It’s a tremendous honor and sacred gift to hold safe space and confidentiality with the many women I work with and what I know for sure is this:

You are NOT the only one.

Love drama. Children heartache. Money mistakes. Career craziness. Fired. Addicted. Dumb choices. Low living…you don’t have a monopoly on any of it.

And the suppression can be so deep that you hide yourself from yourself. That’s what happened to me. I thought I was carrying it well, holding it down like I needed to and always had…until I went splat.

Let That ShXT Go!

Because it’s weighing you down more than you know. It’s blocking you from fully flowing in the essence of who you were put here to be.

Let it go.

Stop hiding. Start living. LIVING. Not only existing.

I see the amazingness that happens when clients shed their crap. They show up for themselves in ways that are surprising even to them. They start businesses, take political action, build legacy, start foundations, get healthy, find lasting love…

This is why I started my coaching business and why I’m leading a midlife manifesting revolution. We have all the time we need and no time to waste. If you’re ready, let’s talk. The Midlife Manifest Sistermind is starting soon. Let’s talk. Schedule a discovery session through this link, ConnectWithRene.com.

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To learn more about the shXt I’ve shed, listen to this short interview I did on April Mahoney’s On The Edge radio show, listen.








Midlife Manifest Fifties Wisdom Week Three: When Do It Yourself Is A Don’t

Hello Beautiful!

One of my favorite things about midlife is that I’ve learned to trust myself. I stay informed, stay in prayer and intuitively decide the path I need to take. So when I decided to try a new adventure (hiking) and wanted to purchase appropriate shoes, I nixed my usual move: Amazon delivery and went to an actual store.

Excellent  decision!

My mom was the queen of self-sufficiency, but she also taught me to keep a list of go-to experts. So while I could have done my usual ‘highest star rating for the lowest cost’ google check, I decided I wanted the best foundation to keep myself from falling. What I experienced at Alabama Outdoors:

1. Hands-on Expertise was worth every penny those $200 shoes cost me. Brittany took me through THREE DIFFERENT FIT TESTS to ensure I was getting the best shoe for my needs.

2. Getting exactly what you want is worth the time it takes to get it. Brittany spent a solid hour with me. She assessed who I am, where I was going, and what I wanted. She took me through all of my options and didn’t let me settle for less than I needed to have a great hiking experience.

3. I slipped twice on that hike and my shoes kept me from falling.

As it says in Ecclesiastes, there’s a time and season for everything. Amazon couldn’t do for me what the Alabama Outdoors staff did. I left singing  their praises and also experiencing a sense of familiarity because I provide that level of service to my clients…walking them through my signature Get Your Life transformation process.

If you’ve been craving life-lasting change and don’t have it, how committed are you to getting it? If you’re complaining about the same thing today that you were a year ago, how serious are you about changing it?

Midlifers committed to their change take the necessary action to get it.

Mid-thrivers who are serious about their change step up to the challenge and invest in themselves to get it. They ditch do-it-yourself and get expert help.

These are the women I love working with…watching them Let That (maybe someday/it’s too late/I’m not worth it) ShXt Go! and forge their new paths to personal freedom.

Let’s step to it, Women!



***Had a blast during my On The Edge radio interview! Listen here

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Midlife Manifest Fifties Wisdom Week Two: File For Divorce From Outcome…STAT!

Hello Beautiful!

I’m sharing wisdom gained from my decade of fifty. Today I’m talking about one of my favorite lessons and foundational coaching messages:

Divorce yourself from (specific) outcome.

And it’s the specificity of our desires that trip us up. Values and soul-supporting boundaries are one thing. Blinding yourself to possibility because it’s not wrapped in the package you expected or requested is another.

You want to be married, but you dismiss ‘The One’ because he’s 5’7″ instead of 6’5″. You want a new home and you over-extend your budget to get the mega-mansion and turn your nose up at the cute cottage in the friendly neighborhood. You want to travel, but your partner’s a homebody or your girlfriends won’t commit which nixes it for you.

I’m not saying you should settle. I’m saying that you won’t be truly happy until you’re clear on what exactly you want.

Do you want love that lasts or a 6’5″ partner? Do you want a home that provides comfort, security, and community without financial burden or a house that requires more upkeep than you imagined? Do you want to expand your horizons or let other people’s desires (or fears!) determine what you experience?

This was validated for me in two ways this week:

  • during an epic girlfriend trip to see the phenomenal Williams Sisters play at the U.S. Open. Something I set upper our tournament experience didn’t come through the way I planned and I almost let it bum me out until my girlfriends reminded me why we were there (to enjoy a fabulous time checking off a dream goal) and that a detail change wasn’t going to spoil that…and it didn’t! The (true) mission was accomplished.
  • getting this beautiful message from a client: “…Sometimes we measure success by what we can see. We have desired outcomes and often times if they don’t look like what we have in mind or what we have identified as success we question our impact. But all the while change is happening right where it needs to. On the inside. My inner infrastructure is stronger because of my work with you…”

I love helping clients get outcome divorces. It’s why my coaching retreats have artsy/creativity themes to teach women how you can become the designer, architect, and creator of whatEVER you want to manifest in your life. Let me know when you’re ready.



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