What She Said…

One of my Front Row Friends (Vivian) is mom to three beautiful, walk-it-like-they-were-raised daughters… one (Jordan), is dealing with breast cancer with an ‘I choose to rise above it’ approach that the word ‘inspiring’ doesn’t fully capture.

This radiant ‘in the midst of it all’ pic is Jordan with her daughter Sydney aka Sugar Baby.

Jordan is a 31 yr. old woman, child of God, wife, mom, daughter, sister, friend and attorney. She’s been through chemo, surgery, and hair loss and graciously gave me permission to share an excerpt from her latest update. Let her words sink in deeply.

Jordan said, “…Exercise: Still crushing it at the gym 💪🏾. Some of the ladies call me “Arms” because my muscles are coming in quite nicely. 😂😂😂.

What I’ve Learned: It’s ok to be a little selfish. Being selfish doesn’t make you any less supportive, giving or caring. It doesn’t make you any less of a wife/husband/partner, mother/father, sister/brother or friend. In fact, I think it makes you better, because you have taken time to pour back into yourself in some way. What I’m most selfish with right now is my gym time. I don’t miss training in the gym unless I absolutely have to (deadline at work or Syd) and I’m unapologetic about it. I feel energized, it makes me happy, and I love how my body is starting to look.

Before my life was jolted out of whack, I was so focused on being dutiful, doing things because they are expected, without regard for myself. While I always love to exceed people’s expectations of me, some of those things I was doing at the expense of myself. I’m working on finding the appropriate balance, and it’s been nice. I feel like a much better person each day, because I take time to pour back into myself.

So, be a little selfish. Unapologetically so. It’s good for you and everyone you love, because you’ll be left with more to give them if you feel full.”

If this resonates, Pay Attention. Make it your Call To Action.

What are you resisting being “a little selfish” about?

Let that s%#t go!

Choose the thing, then…

Do it!

The Love Post

Hello Beautiful!

LOVE is one of my favorite words. I don’t think you can have too much good LOVE in your life! I know there’s the belief that inanimate objects can’t be loved, but my take on that is the inanimate is loved because it connects to the animate, through memory and experience. One of my current inanimate loves: Gelarto Salted Caramel Gelato (it’s creamy goodness makes me happy and since it’s straight from Turin, Italy, it reminds me of my wonderful trip to Italy with Mr. Washington…My Person).

I’m grateful that I can CHOOSE the people I spend most of my time with and that the choosing is based in LOVE. Recently, I heard yet another story about a woman who has no girlfriends. Connecting romantically with someone can be complex (thankfully, not impossible), but I believe every woman needs at least one great girlfriend…and a few more are even better.  For me, life would truly be miserable without mine!

This is the month we place extra emphasis on the LOVE thang. I hope you have the best LOVE relationships in ALL categories and if you don’t, I hope you make the choices and decisions that will get you there. Start with Self-Love. It expands your capacity for giving and receiving LOVE. Promise!

Enjoy the LOVE Month. Appreciate the LOVE you have. Open yourself to receive more. LOVE up on yourself throughout the year. And know that I do LOVE and appreciate YOU!

If a certain someone in your life would LOVE doing something special for you, I have the perfect thing: The Design The Life You Love Retreat gift certificate. And I do highly recommend self-gifting! LOL

P.S. Here’s a list of my (mostly) inanimate love jams, https://drive.google.com/file/d/13ACr7D4G6wdpVKDZMPemxPejT7Q0x9wE/view?usp=sharing

P.P.S. Did you see the Feb. 1st airing of Grey’s Anatomy? It’s a great stand-alone episode about the character Miranda Baily going through various iterations of LOVE (self-care, family, friendship, romantic) and showing the importance of taking a stand for one’s self…particularly with people who are conditioned to NOT listen you. Worth watching!


Get Your Mind Right!

“The truth will set you free, but you have to endure the labor pains of birthing it.” ~ Iyanla Vanzant

Woo Sa! As ‘they say’, she ain’t never lied!! I haven’t birthed a baby, but I have labored through many forms of change. What I know for sure:

Successful change is not sustainable without a strong mindset foundation.

Going inside, connecting to your internal compass, and acting on what lights you up while taming mental gremlins that want to derail you…that’s the not-so-secret key to getting…

  • work you love
  • the relationship you dream about
  • a healthy body and lifestyle
  • that passion project up and running
  • the life you crave

”If your dream only includes you, it’s too small.” ~ Unknown

“Fear is an ancient detection system. Update your brain for modern times and make success your dominant thought.” ~The Neuroscientist

Two of my biggest passions are living my purpose and coaching women to choose to live theirs.



Yes, there’s a lot of work (some of it tough) between those two words and there is no more worthy endeavor. The best dreams benefit many. Look at that! It’s not selfish to live your dream, it’s a disservice not to! 🙌🏾



P.S. I’m so serious about providing the best mindset coaching possible, that I’m getting a NeuroCoach designation from a group of neuroscientists! Excited to share what I’ll be learning about improving emotional intelligence, brain health, productivity, memory, and creativity with you!

P.P.S. If you’re ready to get serious about getting that life you say you want, you’ll want to join my next teleclass, Let That S#%t Go! Schedule your free Life Strategy session to get the details plus get at least one action item to improve your life, NOW!  You can also click here to get information about my Design The Life You Love Retreat. Payment plans are available for both, so stop dithering and jump on it!

P.P.P.S. I did my first podcast interview! It’s with my friend and Fab money coach, Katrina McGhee. Have a listen, https://www.kmcgheecoaching.com/podcast-1.



It’s A Love Thang

Hello Beautiful!

Happy February. It’s the month of Love, Black History, and Chocolate. Yessss!!

Speaking of love, I LOVE mindset coaching because I love words. Their function. Their beauty. Their ugly. Their power. And when you get to the crux of it, mindset is words. Words that form thoughts. Thoughts that become feelings. Feelings that become actions. Actions that become results which lead to more thoughts and the continuation of the cycle. Stuff happens and we tell ourselves stories about it. Stories that work for us or against us. When those stories spin into negativity, malaise, or pain, I help flip that script to get you on the “stories that work for us” train.

BIG THANKS to the Desire Mappers in my recent virtual workshop. They did the work (so many aha’s, realizations, & epiphanies),  discovered their Core Desired Feelings and they’re translating them into…

A New Way To Be…Do…Live…Love.

“Awesome sessions! Thanks for gifting us with your wisdom and leading us to the light.” ~ Tonya Allen (happy workshop participant)

And check out this GAWGEOUS vision board, created by workshop participant Linda Quarles!! This will keep her Core Desired Feelings (CDF’s) top of mind!

If you’d love to flip your script the Design The Life You Love Retreat is for YOU!  It’s an experience filled with the power of masterful mindset coaching with the added bonus of being set in a gorgeous location. Click here to get yourself there.

Travel not your thing? Timing’s not right? My next teleclass, Let That S%#t Go! starts in March. It’s limited to 15 “ready to be about it” women. If that’s YOU, let’s talk. Schedule your free Life Strategy session to get the details and leave the call with at least one action item to improve your life, NOW!

Seeing women I coach get fulfilling jobs, start businesses, leave bad relationships, and take stands for themselves in big and small ways, Lights. Me. Up.

Yep, it’s a Love Thang.






The Sunday Rundown

Recently, I was at a doctor’s visit with an older family member who’s dealing with end-stage cancer. The doctor gently led us through the ‘we’ve run out of treatment options ‘ conversation and the decision was made for them to be placed under hospice care. My family member is still mobile and functional and after the doctor explained that remaining treatment options had only a small chance of helping and a high probability of bad side effects, he asked, “What quality of life do you want?” It immediately struck me that this question is associated mainly with the end of life.

What if we ask ourselves that question right now instead of waiting for an end of life decision?

“What kind of quality of life do I want?”

What would we do differently?

I’ve been processing those questions for myself since that visit. And I’m paying to attention to what’s bubbling up: Be more present. Stop settling. Unnecessarily delaying.

Whatever we are dealing with, we get to choose our response. Whatever we want, we can go after it and trust that we’ll land where we’re supposed to be. Don’t settle. Longevity is arbitrary.

Choose Your ‘Quality of Life’. Now.

There’s a Coach for that and I’ve got options:

Let That S#%t Go!, the 5-week teleclass that helps women determine What you truly want, Why you don’t have it, and How to get it. See details here and get on a strategy call with me to decide your Best Next Step, https://crenecoach.com/let-that-st-go-the-5-week-program-for-getting-the-life-you-crave/

The Desire Map Sessions end Thursday with Goal Setting plus Vision Boarding and it’s not too late to join us.

Here’s the Goal Setting session link, Thursday 6:30pm – 8:30pm CST, https://zoom.us/j/970539522.

If you missed…

Session One, here’s the link, https://crenecoach.com/the-desire-map-virtual-workshop-session-1-1-14-18/

Session Two link, https://crenecoach.com/desire-map-session-two/

The Check-in link, https://crenecoach.com/the-desire-map-virtual-workshop-check-in/

Love travel? Personal growth?  Mark your calendars for June 1-3, for the retreat that combines both! Full details coming Wednesday.



Desire Map Question Hour

Hello Beautiful!

Are you ready for spring? I’m soooo deep in my winter cave…only exiting on a need-to-leave basis. This is when I truly appreciate being able to work from anywhere, with home being at the top of the preferred list right about now! LOL

Desire Mappers:

– Tonight we nail down your Core Desired Feelings. Join the Zoom call at 6:30 CST, https://zoom.us/j/970539522.

– Next Thursday is the FINAL Desire Map session during which we’ll use our CDF’s to create Goals that align with who we are, not who we think we have to be.

(If you aren’t Desire Mapping, you’ll be happy to know that I’ll be back to my twice weekly schedule of dropping in your inbox after next Thursday.) 😊

For All: I’m pouring my heart and soul into two upcoming coaching opportunities (one will be my signature work) and I’m so excited! Can’t wait to share the details.

Stay warm! ♥️♥️

Desire Map Check-in Plus…

Hello Beautiful!

Hope everyone’s week is going well. I’m…

  • sharing the NEW RETREAT DATES (YAY!!!): June 1-3…same location at the gorgeous Kimpton Hotel Zamora in St. Petersburg, FL (pic above). Details coming.
  • Loving Life!

Happy Desire Mapping!

Desire Map Question Hour Recap

Hello Beautiful!

We had an engaged group of women attending the first question hour. (GRATEFUL!) As I said on the call, I’m on this desire mapping journey with you and I loved the circle of wisdom and encouragement we all experienced!

Here’s the link to the Question Hour Nuggets and a few exercises to help you nail down your CDF’s, https://drive.google.com/file/d/1OKyE1w5lgJ3CrY0QDaoSQjlhkke4OOwn/view?usp=sharing

VISIONING! I love vision boards and some of you have attended my vision board workshops. In Thursday’s Question Hour, I’m going to share how you create a vision board for your Core Desired Feelings.

I love this exchange between spiritual teach Eckhart Tolle and Ms. O, because it speaks to what I believe: Most of us DO know what we want. We don’t believe we can have it or we don’t believe we’re worthy of having it.

Yes. We. Can.

Yes. We. Are.

Leaving you with another quote from one of our Desire Mappers,

“Rene this is awesome, learning so much already . Namely, get out of my feelings and do the work .” ~ Anita Renee



The Desire Map Question Hour!

It’s Question Hour Day!!

My ‘How Do You Want To Feel’ was sorely tested today (and really the past few weeks) with more tech issues that shut my site down, preventing me from sending this reminder until now.

It’s actually a great segue into this evening’s call. Someone had already asked me how Desire Mapping works when you feel under attack. Be sure to join the call to hear my response and ask YOUR questions.

Hope to see (or hear) you there!

Here’s the Question Hour link, 6:30pm – 7:30pm CST, https://zoom.us/j/970539522.

If you missed…

Session One, here’s the link, https://crenecoach.com/the-desire-map-virtual-workshop-session-1-1-14-18/

Session Two link, https://crenecoach.com/desire-map-session-two/

The Check-in link, https://crenecoach.com/the-desire-map-virtual-workshop-check-in/

Join us in the Facebook group if that’s your jam, https://www.facebook.com/groups/354484758365782/ or email me, Rene@cReneCoach.com


The Desire Map Virtual Workshop – Session Three

Happy Hump Day, Desire Mappers!

I’m sending a zoom audio (5 minutes) with today’s highlights to familiarize you with zoom, if you haven’t used it before. I did video only because I looked a hot mess at the time I recorded it. LOL!


Today’s Highlights (from The Magnetics of Feelings chapter)

Desire Mapping brings the Woo, but there’s also a discipline component. We want Joyful Discipline. I’ve been having mega issues with my internet service and as frustrating as that’s been, I’m (mostly!) able to laugh about it because I’m passionate about my business.

“The surest sign that you’re working with the life-affirming kind of discipline, rather than the spirit-depressing kind, is that you don’t complain very much about doing what it takes.”

We are not our feelings. We can’t always choose WHAT happens to us, but we can choose how we feel about it. “Peace or worry. Gratitude or anger. It’s your choice.”

“Stay anchored to the desired feeling, and open to the form in which it manifests.” I had a client who after many years of waiting for Mr. Right, hesitated when he arrived because he didn’t look like what she expected and because he expressed his feelings for her quicker than the ‘should’ in her head. She quickly circled around to his being the partner she desired and they are having a blast together. Don’t let the package distract you from how you’re feeling.

Finally, I’m sharing my validating ‘how I want to feel’ moment: this lovely email from Nikki B.

“I’m loving the videos and the lessons. I’ve completed my first exercise. At first I was hesitant about starting, but then I realized that I was giving myself another excuse to be afraid. Every year I hear people make affirmations about the new year, but I’ve never done it. However, for some reason 2018 is resonating with me as being my year to “Glow Up” and I’m super excited.

So thank you for doing this series. I’m not on Facebook, but Your emails and YouTube videos are very helpful. Thank you Cheryl! If you only help one person, know that you are helping me…”

Yes! Nikki’s right. It’s Time to “Glow Up”!

Here’s the Question Hour link for Thursday 6:30pm – 7:30pm CST, https://zoom.us/j/970539522.

If you missed…

Session One, here’s the link, https://crenecoach.com/the-desire-map-virtual-workshop-session-1-1-14-18/

Session Two link, https://crenecoach.com/desire-map-session-two/

The Check-in link, https://crenecoach.com/the-desire-map-virtual-workshop-check-in/

Join us in the Facebook group if that’s your jam, https://www.facebook.com/groups/354484758365782/ or email me, Rene@cReneCoach.com

Happy Desire Mapping!