I Want To Be Like You When I Grow Up!

Hello Beautiful!

If I had a $5 bill for every time I’ve had someone tell me this, it would pay for that Paris retreat I’ve got my eye on. LOL!

So let’s break down ‘being like me’:

  • flunked out of college…
  • divorced after 20 years of marriage…
  • quit my good job two years before official retirement…
  • had a mini-stroke and a menopause season of questioning my sanity…
  • dealing with severe chronic pain for the past several years…
  • beloved mom died…
  • blown more money than the law should allow…
  • said things I shouldn’t have said, done things I’ve shouldn’t have done

One thing I haven’t ever done though, is wanted to be someone else.

”I am what I am because I was what I was.” ~ Jenn Scalia

What I did was believe in God and myself enough to keep it moving until I got it right…for me.

Everybody’s got some junk. And if s%#t hasn’t hit the fan for you yet, YAY!…as mom used to say, “keep on livin’.”

I know most who say this don’t really mean it, although it would be cool to be able to simply trade for the life we want?

A better option is to own the agency we do have in making the change we want in our lives.

This is why coaching women is my jam, especially women facing major transition. We sit on so much delayed, suppressed, or repressed awesomeness.  Why?  Because we’re afraid. Because we’re confused. Because we’re stressed.

And it’s time for us to Let That S%#t Go! and get busy creating those new life chapters that let our little lights shine (I’m still on a royal wedding high).

From growing beautiful gardens to creating stunning art to winning political office to c-suite promotions to running million dollar businesses. However your light glows!

Because ALL of our little lights together will turn this world on its head in the BEST ways.

So keep your life and Live IT!

It’s time.

c. René

Ways to work with me:

Next weekend is the Design The Life You Love Retreat. I’m so excited about the women attending and what they’re going to experience! If you’re an I NEED THIS AND I’M DOING IT FOR MYSELF WOMAN, it’s not too late to join us. Click  YES!

My recent Let That S%#t Go! teleclass was a BIG SUCCESS and a new expanded version starts in September. Information webinar coming in June with details and early sign-up bonuses.

In a mini-crisis and only need a one-time session? My new Mind-Set-Go hour of power is your brainstorming-to-solution choice! Click Mind-Set-Go.

Have you downloaded my gift to you e-book? Click Keep It Movin’

 

When Women Gather

Hello Beautiful!

Recently I attended an event, Radiant Wise Women Circle facilitated by my friend and Fab coach, Lee S. Irwin. Her topic that evening was, Getting What You Really Want. 

What struck me most was that almost every woman there expressed a desire to connect to other women. To meet new friends.

Many years ago (whew…too many!), I gathered a group of about 15 women for a trip to New York City to see the Lion King on Broadway. Everyone knew somebody but they didn’t know everybody and it still stands as one of the most amazing estrogen-fueled experiences ever! 

Since then, I’ve been ALL in for occasions to gather the womenfolk: Girls Night Out, J.U.G. parties(Just Us Girls), book clubs, viewing parties, dine-arounds, just because excursions, and yes annual trips back to Broadway.

So, I’m always a little surprised (and sad) when I hear women who don’t have go-to ride-or-die female friendship. It’s a scientifically proven life extender and for me it’s a required part of my ‘put on my oxygen mask’ first self-care.

To laugh.

To cry.

To rant.

To rave.

To learn.

To love.

To pray.

To comfort.

To breathe.

To simply be.

If this is a gap in your life, step outside of your connection rut to expand your social horizon. That group you’ve been curious about…that class you’ve wanted to take…that Facebook friend you’d like to meet in person…the woman you always see at the hair salon…?? You never know where that next great bond may come from.

Join.

Connect.

c.René Washington

cReneCoach.com

P.S. Got this message yesterday from a woman who jumped on a great opportunity for connection and coaching…my Design The Life You Love Retreat: “…wait til I tell you how God worked this out. I had just told him. Lord, I need a retreat. Then [I heard] about your retreat. HE IS GOOD. HE IS FAITHFUL.” LOVE a woman who heeds an answered yearning! If you’ve been craving change and waiting on a sign, Hellooooooo?? This. Is. It.

And it’s not too late for you to decide. Click here

P.P.S. Birmingham peeps: Follow Lee S. Irwin on Facebook to get notified on the date for her next Radiant Wise Women event. And if you aren’t already, I’d love for you to follow me on Facebook too.

 

Pssst…Don’t Tell Everybody, But…

Hello Beautiful!

Popping in with the short and sweet skinny on my Design The Life You Love Retreat.

Some of you want to go, but the May 31-June 3 dates don’t work. (Hate that!)

Some of you want to go, but your money’s funny.

Some of you told me you’ll go next time.

I can’t change the dates, but for the ‘next time’ and money’s funny people, please know that there will be no next time.

THIS IS MY FINAL RETREAT.

Because it’s the last one, I want to sell it out and that’s why I’m doing what we’re advised not to do: offering a longer than typical payment plan. 

I’m not going to go on and on about how fabulous this retreat is going to be. Just know that it’s not your typical boring hotel conference room affair. It’s been beautifully planned and curated to stimulate ALL of your senses (a gorgeous rooftop hotel on the gulf coast, workshop in a glassblowing art gallery, and more!) in designing your next life chapter. It will absolutely be an experience that keeps on giving for years to come and that’s priceless!

So, if you talked yourself out of going, talk yourself back in. Treat Yo Self!

If you’ve been on the fence, jump off and into this life-changing opportunity.

Don’t be in the ‘Awww, I wish I’d gone!’ group. Be in the, ‘This is the best thing I’ve done for myself in a long time’ group!

LOOKING FOR A FEW MORE GREAT WOMEN

And don’t tell EVERYbody, but DO TELL stand-up Fab Women who would respect and appreciate this offer.

Respond to this message and I’ll send you the new (subject to approval) payment plan terms.

Here’s the link to the Design The Life You Love Retreat details, https://crenecoach.com/design-the-life-you-love-retreat/

You in??

c.René

 

Love, Peace, & Respect

To all moms, grandmothers, godmothers, auntmoms, friendmoms, stepmoms, and fostermoms, I hope you’re enjoying all the love, peace, and respect you deserve…not only today, but always.

And an EXTRA dose of peace for those who are missing our moms, regret not being a mom, or live with the heartbreak of losing a child.

Love,

c.René 💕

Where Your Expectation Goes…

“Well if you don’t know why, maybe I made the wrong decision.”

Those words were spoken to me early in my corporate career. I received a promotion and the department manager who promoted me asked me if I knew why he promoted me. I said, “Not really.”

Mistake!

I was rolling in false humility because I knew exactly why he selected me. I was a great employee and perfect for the role. But I didn’t know how to own that self-awareness then. I wanted great things to happen to and for me, but tamped down my expectations because what if something didn’t work out?

So what if it doesn’t??

“Where your expectation goes, your life will follow.” ~ Tamara Joy Scott

Doing mindset work with my clients and myself has shown me how much we trip over our own crap and live a less-than-what’s-possible life. And a lot of that connects to being afraid to believe we can have what we want and feeling safe in expecting less. Well, I’m done with that s%#t and hope you join me.

I’m expecting the best to happen to me AND I’m fine with feeling disappointment when it doesn’t. Trying to avoid pain when what’s on the other side of it is wonderful keeps me from the full experience of a life well-lived.

I want the BEST WELL-LIVED LIFE EVER.

I expect to enjoy my days full tilt.

I expect to live a grand romance with Mr. Washington

I expect my programs to fill up with fabulous women. (Join my Design The Life You Love retreat to meet them!)

I expect to be healthy, wealthy, and wise.

I expect to meet Michelle and Barack Obama one day.

I love planning to expectation and intuitively following a nudging that ends up superceding expectation.

Where your expectation goes, your life will follow.

Enjoying the hell out of my journey… and I literally mean Enjoying. The. Hell. OUT. Of. My. Journey.

What are you expecting??

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Ways to work with me:

It’s Decision Time for The Design The Life You Love Retreat!! Say YES to You and up-level your expectations. Here’s a little video message about it, https://youtu.be/2sQ_1oG4BxU

And Don’t miss the New Pricing! https://crenecoach.com/design-the-life-you-love-retreat/

The Let That S%#t Go! teleclass was a BIG SUCCESS and a new expanded version is coming. Stay tuned!

In a mini-crisis and only need a one-time session? My new Mind-Set-Go hour of power is your brainstorming to solution choice! https://crenecoach.com/work-with-me/ 

Have you downloaded my gift to you e-book? https://crenecoach.com/keep-it-movin-2/

At What Cost Your Freedom

Hello Beautiful!

Why do you do what you do? This question is on a continuous loop in the background of my mind. The answer fuels my personal path and the coaching I provide my clients.

A few months ago, I had a crisis in purpose and came very close to giving up my business.

So many women’s lives have been been tangibly changed for the better through the coaching work they’ve done with me. But that success was not being fully reflected in my business. Why? Because, although I know my value but I wasn’t owning my value.

I see this with clients too.

More focused on why the external (spouse, boss, company, friends, children, etc.) isn’t giving us what we want (respect, raise, promotion, support, etc.) than on why WE aren’t giving it to ourselves.

When I wasn’t hitting my business targets, I thought that meant entrepreneurship wasn’t my thing after all. Had to pull myself back from Give Up Ledge through prayer, coaching, and reminding myself of Why I Do What I Do:

to live my personal brand of freedom and to help women seeking the same do so too.

Right after my return from the abyss, I filled my Let That S%#t Go! program. It’s going so well, I’m expanding it for an even deeper, juicier dunk in how to get out your own way to get what you want.

Which is exactly what I had to do. OWN my value so potential clients would value it too. Mindset is fundamental.

Free Your Mind and Your Life Will Follow!

Then I got tested. Someone who really wants to go on my Design The Life You Love Retreat (Yes! You should go) asked me cut out my post-retreat coaching and lower the price for them.

The location is FAB and it will be a fantabulous relax & release getaway, but it’s mainly about coaching women through creating the life change they’re craving. Cutting out half of the coaching compromises my purpose.

And right after I received that request, I received the graphic below from a woman who is attending the retreat (smart woman!), noting how much the first sentence resonates with her decision to attend.

”Advance confidently in the direction of your dreams and endeavor to live the life you have imagined.”

Emphasis on advancing. Because whether you feel fully confident or not, making the decision and taking the action advances you towards what you want.

I’m grateful for the cost reduction request. It tested my ‘do you really believe in yourself, girl’ resolve. Yes. I. Do.

There’s a message in that thing or person that’s offending you, working your last nerve, or pushing your button. It’s a message for you, about you.

At what cost your freedom? You decide.

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Ways to work with me:

It’s Decision Time for The Design The Life You Love Retreat!! Here’s a little video mesage about it, https://youtu.be/2sQ_1oG4BxU

And Don’t miss the  New Pricing! https://crenecoach.com/design-the-life-you-love-retreat/

In a mini-crisis and only need a one-time session? My new Mind-Set-Go hour of power is your brainstorming to solution choice! https://crenecoach.com/work-with-me/ 

Have you downloaded my gift to you e-book? https://crenecoach.com/keep-it-movin-2/

 

Black DOES Crack!

After a long corporate career coaching men and women, I chose to focus solely on women in my own business. I love men (especially Mr. Washington), but I do believe the future is female. That women CO-operating in the fullness of our value, vision, and purpose will flip this world on it’s head and shake out much of what ails it.

Today, I’m tightening my focus a little more to speak to my melanin sisters. I spent the past few days drenched in civil rights history while attending the Equal Justice Initiative Peace Summit and opening of the Legacy Museum and The National Museum for Peace and Justice. It is the manifestation of the incomparable Bryan Stevenson’s vision to acknowledge and honor those who were the targets of the horror that is lynching.

In one of the seminars, there was a discussion re the often unacknowledged (even by us) weight that black women carry as recipients of racism and as the primary supporters of loved ones experiencing  the impact of racism. I also happened to listen to an episode of the excellent Therapy For Black Girls podcast titled, Shedding Super Woman Status. All women can benefit from taking a listen  to it, but I want to specifically address the resistance in the black community to seeking therapy and the double-edged sword of strong black womanhood we balance..at times precariously, by simply saying this:

Stop it.

It’s common for my white female clients to hire me for coaching while also going to therapy. I’ve gone through therapy to deal with issues during my first marriage, including my own case of superwoman-itis. There was a year during that time when I functioned on a bare minimum of sleep, all while still handling my business. Nobody wears a mask as well as a black woman! No one knew what I was going through. I hid my stress so well, the full impact was even hidden from me. At one point, I did think it might be good to talk to someone, went to a therapist and was made to feel that I was complaining about matters of little importance. That I was ungrateful. I share this not to discourage seeking therapy, but to encourage finding the right therapist. Because after that experience, I retreated in shame back to my private hell and several months later ended up in the hospital after a mini-stroke.

Black women carry normal life stressors PLUS the stressors connected to living in a still and in some ways, increasingly blatant racist society as documented in this article and this one. I girlfriend and I talked about being terrified by a police traffic stop now, something that had only been irritating in the past. We keep a reel in our heads of non-ending innocent black people being shot or jailed for no good damn reason.

I’m not serving up hopelessness here. I’m promoting awareness and taking self-care action that truly works for you. Don’t be afraid of therapy. I love Jesus! My faith is my foundation AND I can respect mental health and coaching professionals in addition to pastoral support. I can’t imagine life without my girlfriends AND I know that sometimes I need more than a girls night out or their always tough-loving and sympathetic ear.

Whatever demographic box we check, there will probably come a time when we need help: from family, from friends, and yes, from a professional. We need to get comfortable with asking, seeking, getting. As a coach I work with the ‘worried well’. Life coaching is typically focused on attaining a specific tangible goal (getting work you love, better relationships, implementing a passion project, etc.) and is future-oriented. Therapy goals are connected to deep anxiety and/or trauma and can focus extensively on the past and of course, coaches don’t prescribe medication. There is some overlap and determining which path works best for you (and again, doing both isn’t uncommon) is worth…well, Your Life.

If your issues are beyond the recovery scope of  retail therapy, spa visits, travel, girls nights out, etc., Get Off The Resistance Bus and get yourself to a therapist and/or life coach…STAT!

That’s the true strength and courage path.

Traveling with a Fab group of women is one of my favorite things to do and that’s why I’ve do coaching retreats. I’m moving my business in a different direction and I DON’T WANT YOU TO MISS OUT ON MY LAST RETREAT! It’s one of the BEST OPPORTUNITIES you’ll see this year get ‘move you forward’ coaching in a relax and release location. It’s TIME TO COMMIT, Ladies! I reduced the price and it’s truly a great deal and an even better deal if you bring a girlfriend. Stop dithering and…

Press here to sign yourself up!  Today.

A girlfriend and I are taking great advantage of our Movie Pass cards and have a standing Saturday movie date (hubby just got a card and I’ll being doing movie dates with him too.). This week we saw A Quiet Place and gave it two thumbs up. Neither of us are horror movie fans, but this one is well done: not too graphic…more mess-with-your-mind fear than gruesomeness.

Spring seems to have finally arrived after a too long lingering winter. YAY!!!! Enjoy!

c.René Washington

Check me out at cReneCoach.com.

 

Are You Overloading Your Band

I didn’t load my band.

The band I’m referencing is the wristband I was given with my pass to the jazz festival I was attending. Cash or credit cards wouldn’t be accepted. You were supposed to load money on your wristband…$100 was the suggested starting amount…and the band would be swiped for food and vendor purchases.

The level ticket I bought included lunch, dinner and beverages and I saw no reason to load the band with more money.  I was there to enjoy the company of wonderful girlfriends, listen to great jazz, and chill on the beach. While I’m not opposed to a little retail therapy, loading the card would have put me in a space outside of my intention.

Do you unnecessarily overload your ‘band’ as in  bandwidth?

Are you outside of your intentions?

Do you add unnecessary distractions that only serve to weigh you down?

Saying no to what someone else thinks you should have could be the ticket to your Saying Yes to more of what you really want.

Yes to patio time with your life love.

No to piling on a another volunteer assignment you’ll secretly resent.

Yes to starting that book you’ve been wanting to write.

No to that promotion that may stroke your ego but will suck all of the air out of your life.

Yes to relationships that grow with you.

No to relationships that work against you.

Focus your attention on your intention and watch what happens!

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Ways to work with me:

It’s Decision Time for The Design The Life You Love Retreat!! Here’s a little video mesage about it, https://youtu.be/2sQ_1oG4BxU

And Don’t miss the  New Pricing! https://crenecoach.com/design-the-life-you-love-retreat/

In a mini-crisis and only need a one-time session? My new Mind-Set-Go hour of power is your brainstorming to solution choice! https://crenecoach.com/work-with-me/ 

Have you downloaded my gift to you e-book? https://crenecoach.com/keep-it-movin-2/

 

 

 

 

I Couldn’t Find My Car!

I couldn’t find my car.

For 20 minutes.

In a rainstorm.

My girlfriend and I exited the movie theater after seeing Beirut (recommended!), said our goodbyes, and I started my parking lot trek of drenched confusion. At around minute 15, I call my friend for company in said confusion and she (one of my ride-or-dies) returned to help her soaked buddy look. After the fourth aisle and no sign of my car, I knew it had been stolen…which would have been a totally odd and random occurrence. We went down the fifth aisle and there it was! How did I get so confused??

Now while confusion is not a foreign feeling for me, I was a little surprised at being so far off in remembering my car location. And it validated some changes I’m making…my own mindset reset re adding more fun and more chill in my life. I’m…

  • Reclaiming my time and my mind. I love my work and recently realized I’d love it more by instituting and staying on a schedule. I ran late to the movie because I was trying to get one more thing done, which kept me from…
  • Paying attention. Running around like a headless chicken means I can’t focus on what I’m doing and you can’t remember what you haven’t seen. Cars get lost. LOL!
  • Paying attention. Doing more of what lights me up: time with Mr. Washington, non-biz related reading, jigsaw puzzles, girlfriend outings and trips, library visits, catching up on Outlander!
  • Paying attention. Better self-care.: more sleep, knee repair so I can get my move and groove back.
  • Eliminating overwhelm. As the rain soaked further and further up my pant legs, it reminded me of the stress creep we allow in our lives. Stay vigilant about your oxygen mask, women!

All is well. I didn’t melt.

Ways to work with me (BE SURE TO CHECK THE RETREAT DEAL!): https://crenecoach.com/work-with-me/ 

Did you download my e-book? https://crenecoach.com/keep-it-movin-2/

What I’m drooling over: Crabby Wyatt’s Crabcakes (Thanks Delores Simmons!),

What I’m listening to: Luvvie Ajayi’s Rants & Randomness podcast (the Jenifer Lewis interview…Rise UP Queens!), https://rss.simplecast.com/podcasts/4528/rss

What I’m reading: Year of YES by Shonda Rhimes AND my beautiful friend, Kathe Crawford’s new speak-to-your-soul book on how a secret can color every aspect of your life, Unlocking Secrets. Download a free chapter, http://kathecrawford.com/unlocking-secrets then pre-order this book!

What I’m watching: Too much! LOL But one of my fave new shows is Good Girls. The three stars have the best chemistry and I’m in to see when their life of crime finally crashes down on them. And The Americans finale airs this week. A phenomenal and oh so timely show!

 

 

 

 

 

Design The Life You Love

Hello Beautiful!

One of my biggest life highlights was turning 50. I’ve always loved getting older. Every new year represents (hopefully!) more wisdom, more experiences, more ?? (I stay open). And 50 was my ‘you should have it all together’ by then marker. Why am I tripping down birthday memory lane? Because next year is my 60th and that ‘should’ have it all together stuff? Ha! Dr. Martha Beck (read her always spot on column in O Magazine) wrote an article I reference frequently on the Power of Change, http://marthabeck.com/2003/01/growing-wings-the-power-of-change/  which for most of us is a continuous cycle.

And what I know for sure? We’re always changing and that’s ok because Life is always changing. As Martha notes, there’s power in change.

And what I’ve learned about those changes? They come to teach us and my fifties taught me to become a quicker-on-the-draw learner. To Let My S%#t Go! and close that gap between what I say I want and what I’m allowing myself to have.

I celebrated turning 50 for 18 months. Yep…18! And to kick off a 15 month trek to my next decade, I’m doing new pricing on the Design The Life You Love Retreat, May 31-June 3 in St. Petersburg, FL:

Retreat Details, click this link, https://crenecoach.com/design-the-life-you-love-retreat/

The Girlfriend Deal: $2150 You and your friend pay $1750 each (a $400 savings!)*

Coming Alone Deal: $2150 You pay $1850 ($300 savings!)*

Remember, this is NOT simply a trip to Florida. It’s an I want to…

– clear my confusion and get a concrete plan for my next life chapter

– create a plan for reclaiming my time for more fun or to write that book

– take action on getting work I love or great girlfriends

– Relax and regroup with a bigger purpose

Yes, a lot of coaching and life planning (with post retreat follow-up) AND a lot of fun!

Back to 50, which I celebrated like I’d won the birthday lottery! For my official kickoff, I took several of my best girlfriends on a FunFab beach trip to Florida. Before and after that trip, I did NYC play trips, had an Eat Dessert First party (a ridiculous sugar-fest), went to the Oprah show (twice!), did a Savannah road trip with my mom…whatever caught my fancy. 18 months of celebrating that culminated the day before I turned 51 with a New Orleans-style second line parade in a local park with live musicians and we topped that off with a dinner at a fave, fancy restaurant.

So, you don’t want to miss this retreat! Only 9 slots available.

*To receive the Special Pricing, send email to Rene@cReneCoach.com. Girlfriends must pay at the same time.

c.René Washington

cReneCoach.com