Calling All Do Better Junkies

I’m an SDJ (self-development junkie). Not because I’m broken (although there have been times when I was!), but because I love getting better. I stand with Michelle Obama in believing we are Becoming until we die. And better at this stage of life is about shedding old paradigms, rules (who said??!), and resented obligations.

And better isn’t always easy. There’s no secret or magic bullet for it. 

It’s about Getting Aware and staying Open.

It’s about Connection.

Connecting to your inner truth and guiding light.

Connecting to what you want more than you’re afraid of it.

Connecting to your Ikigai. Say what???

This graphic is the visual for the Japanese concept of Ikigai.

“The term ikigai is composed of two Japanese words: iki referring to life, and kai, which roughly means “the realisation of what one expects and hopes for.” Unpacking the word and its associated symbol a bit further, ikigai is seen as the convergence of four primary elements:

* What you love (your passion)

* What the world needs (your mission)

* What you are good at (your vocation)

* What you can get paid for (your profession)

The word ikigai, that space in the middle of these four elements, is seen as the source of value or what make one’s life truly worthwhile. In Okinawa, Japan, ikigai is thought of as “a reason to get up in the morning.” (From the article, Finding Your Reason For Being, http://upliftconnect.com/ikigai-finding-your-reason-for-being/)

I’m calling out ALL the SDJs! 

Do you want to know your reason for being? 

Or do you know but you aren’t living it??

Then THIS is your Summer to Slay That Shizz!

If not now, when??

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P.S. For the I’m Ready Action Takers!

  • ReTREAT Yo Self! I’m leading TWO retreats in September!! One to New York City and one to Lisbon, Portugal!!  Both retreats will be design-your-life focused and the jumpstart you need to GET MOVING! Because they include specially curated activities and one-to-one coaching, I’m only taking FIVE women per retreat and spaces have sold. If you’ve been on the fence about working with me, LEAP! My retreats are (proven) FAB opportunities to get quick life turnaround! Click here for details.
  • My podcast launches July 31st!!! Follow my Wednesday newsletter for behind-the-scenes details. What dreams are you sitting on? If you’re not on my email list, subscribe hereto follow my path to dream realization.
  • Today’s the last day to Treat Yourself to listening to a wonderful interview series I participated in: Awakened Midlife…How to Love and Enjoy Your Body Now hosted by Keren Brown, CPCC. Click here for full access to the series. 

Do The Damn Thing!

At the end of your life, you don’t regret what you did, you regret what you didn’t do.

Do the damn thing!


I’m sharing the Midlife Manifest Manifesto I created:

Read it. 

Speak it out loud. 

Live it.

#LetYourShxtGo! #MidlifeManifest

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P.S. Ways I can help you let go and do it:

  • Treat Yourself to listening to a wonderful interview series I participated in: Awakened Midlife…How to Love and Enjoy Your Body Now hosted by Keren Brown, CPCC. Click here for full access to the series. 
  • ReTREAT Yo Self! I’m leading TWO retreats in September!! One to New York City and one to Lisbon, Portugal!!  Both retreats will be design-your-life focused and the jumpstart you need to GET MOVING! Because they include specially curated activities and one-to-one coaching, I’m only taking FIVE women per retreat and spaces have sold. If you’ve been on the fence about working with me, LEAP! My retreats are (proven) FAB opportunities to get quick life turnaround! Click here for details.
  • My podcast launches July 31st!!! Follow my Wednesday newsletter for behind-the-scenes details. What dreams are you sitting on? If you’re not on my email list, subscribe here to follow my path to dream realization.

Sunday Self Audit

Do you follow The Fly, Hip, and Ageless on social media? I love their short spot on messages on living YOUR Best Life, unapologetically.

“Look at your daily habits and ask yourself if they are causing you to evolve or revolve. Are you moving forward or just moving in circles?”

FHA tagged this post, Sunday Self Audit and it’s what I’m adopting (stealing LOL!) as an add-on to my current Sunday practice of assessing the week ahead and deciding how I want that week to end.

If you followed the Passport To Midlife Freedom Challenge, ask yourself the question above. Ask it even if you didn’t follow the challenge. If you’re good with continuing to revolve, STOP READING. Keep reading my blog until you’re ready.

I work with take-action-I’m-worth-the-investment women!

If that’s you and you’re ready to EVOLVE, then there’s One Simple Action for you to take: Put yourself on my calendar to talk about what that looks like for you.

I have several options, some include working with me (VIP days, retreats, or deep work over several months), …some don’t (referrals to other resources). This is a two-way street that must work for both of us, NOT take all comers.

Take the trip. Get your life. Schedule a consult. Now.

Schedule on this link, ConnectWithRene.com

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P.S. I’m launching a podcast July 31st!! Stay tuned for the backstory on my podcast launch journey and how to listen.

Passport To Midlife Freedom:Reminder

Passport to Midlife Freedom Challenge!

DAY TWO STARTS IN ABOUT 90 MINUTES AT 11AM CENTRAL STANDARD TIME. YOU WANT TO BE THERE! DETAILS BELOW.

When: Tuesday June 25 – Thursday June 27, 11:30am – 12:00pm CST
Where: In the Zoom Room
Who: The woman who’s seriously ready to ditch fear and reclaim your life!
Why: Because suppressing the truth of who you are is unhealthy… even dangerous.

Join Zoom Meeting
https://zoom.us/j/926889577

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Dial by your location
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Meeting ID: 926 889 577
Find your local number: https://zoom.us/u/aKlk3a0i

If you’ve never used Zoom before, make sure to click the link a few minutes early to install it on your desktop and join us.

“I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I’ve just lived the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.” ~ Diane Ackerman

Don’t miss this FREE opportunity to…

– Learn the FIVE journeys that will set you free (four of them you can take from home!).

– Get the One Question that changes everything.

– Commit to 90 minutes over 3 days that end with your knowing exactly how to 180 your life.

– Independence Day is coming. Let those fireworks be in honor of YOUR declaration of freedom!

Buy those ‘red glasses,’ woman… whatever represents busting out of that box for you!

See you in the Zoom room!

Buy the Red Glasses

I can’t get her out of my head.

The woman I wrote about who was hesitating over choosing the funky red glasses because she might be judged. Who then went on to say that she knew it was time to break out of the box she’d created for herself over the years. That she used to be much more adventurous and she wanted to get back to that person and travel.

We shared a few minutes at an eyewear trunk show. I hope she went back and bought those glasses. I hope she’s booking those trips.

And because I can do more than hope with YOU, I’m challenging YOU to participate and take meaningful action in the

Passport to Midlife Freedom Challenge!

When: Tuesday June 25 – Friday June 28, 11:30am – 12:00pm CST
Where: In the Zoom Room
Who: The woman who’s seriously ready to ditch fear and reclaim your life!
Why: Because suppressing the truth of who you are is unhealthy… even dangerous.

Join Zoom Meeting
https://zoom.us/j/926889577

One tap mobile
+16468769923,,926889577# US (New York)
+16699006833,,926889577# US (San Jose)

Dial by your location
+1 646 876 9923 US (New York)
+1 669 900 6833 US (San Jose)

Meeting ID: 926 889 577
Find your local number: https://zoom.us/u/aKlk3a0i

If you’ve never used Zoom before, make sure to click the link a few minutes early to install it on your desktop and join us.

“I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I’ve just lived the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.” ~ Diane Ackerman

Don’t miss this FREE opportunity to…

– Learn the FIVE journeys that will set you free (four of them you can take from home!).

– Get the One Question that changes everything.

– Commit to TWO hours in 4 days that end with your knowing exactly how to 180 your life.

– Independence Day is coming. Let those fireworks be in honor of YOUR declaration of freedom!

Buy those ‘red glasses,’ woman… whatever represents busting out of that box for you!

See you in the Zoom room on Tuesday!

Take the Trip

What do you want to do?

Why aren’t you doing it?

What do you want for your life?

Why don’t you have it?

Well, it’s complicated. (you say)

Maybe. Maybe not. What it really is…is a decision.

Four months ago, the women in my Sistermind made a decision to stop lying to themselves about why this or that wasn’t happening and to instead trust themselves to do something about it. Now, they’ve made huge shifts that are translating into tangible action.

This week, I was told that a woman who attended the Self-Love Explosion Tour (the FAB speaking event my partners and I run) was moved and inspired to make a major life move that had been nudging her. She made a decision and took the leap after hearing our messages.

My talk was on Taking The Trip: the mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and/or experiential journeys we need to take to live the lives we say we want to live. The aforementioned women are on their respective journeys and Life Is Good! The self-knowledge they’ve gained is priceless and has flipped their externally focused script re what they can or cannot do. They love and own their freedom to be whoever they choose to be. They made a decision. So, I ask again:

What do you want?

Why don’t you have it?

Make a decision.

Take the trip.

P.S. I love working with decision-makers! If that’s you, pick an option below.

  1. Two opportunities to travel your way to your change: Passport To Midlife Freedom Retreats
    NYC
    September 12-15 and Portugal September 16-20; There are only 5 spots available for each trip. Full details in this week’s newsletter!
  2. Ready for deep dive coaching? Schedule a call with my team to determine your best path on this link, cReneCoach.com.
  3. Start working through what you need to release to clear space for what you want. I created a FREE resource, The Tolerations Checklist that helps you Let That Shxt Go! Click here.

I’m Baaack!!

Helloooo Midlifers!

Recently, I was feeding my eyeglasses obsession by checking out a trunk show in my favorite optical shop. A sister shopper was considering two pairs of funky specs: a red pair and black pair. “Get the red!” I exclaimed. She admitted she loved the red, but they were out of the box for her and she was concerned about what people would think. She went on to tell me that she really wanted to get out of her box, though, because there are some things she wants to do that would connect her to getting back to the adventurous woman she used to be.

I told her that’s exactly why she needed to get the red glasses! The black looked great, but the red popped! That one small step would set her on the “coming back to herself” path. To moving her life from meh to magnificent! She agreed she needed her life to pop again.  

In May, I took some time away from being full throttle in my business and it was a revelatory month. Clarity and moving forward direction achieved. My biggest Aha:

Trust yourself.

Every epiphany my clients experience comes back to this simple path to ALL things that serve us. Every time they start the externalizing dance, I circle them back to their internal compass and that’s when the change they need becomes crystal clear. That’s when they learn to say ‘No’ to what drags them and ‘Yes!’ to what fuels them.

“No, I don’t want to leave the peace of my home to watch your children.” “Yes, I will push myself out of complacency to apply for the position that honors the value I bring.” “No, I’m not waiting on company permission to move myself to a better hotel.” “Yes, I’m worth every penny of what this trip costs.”

I know that the best decision-making tool we have is our inner compass and it’s easy to stray from it, especially when you’re doing something that’s new, unknown, or very different from your usual roll. What we have to remember is that the logistics or mechanics of HOW to do something is one thing and our WHY is another. Your WHY connects to your purpose, your passion, and your not wanting to waste another minute living under the obligation of other people’s priorities. That doesn’t mean we only do what we want to do. It means we only do what we CHOOSE to do from a clean place of decision.

What are the ‘red glasses’ you need to wear? Who’s ready for life to pop? What ‘Yesses’ and ‘Nos’ are calling your name? Are you ready to come back to trusting yourself?

Every week I’ll be sharing mini lessons on doing that and opportunities to walk your talk. It’s time to get your midlife POP!

P.S. There’s no time like now.

  1. Two opportunities to travel your way to your change: Passport To Your Midlife Thrive Retreats
    NYC
    September 12-15 and Portugal September 16-20; I’m completing details and there are only 5 spots available for each trip. Full details coming by next week. Put your name on the first dibs list by sending me an email.
  2. Ready for deep dive coaching? Schedule a call with my team to determine your best path on this link, cReneCoach.com.
  3. I’m doing a podcast!! It starts this fall and I’ll be sharing the behind-the-scenes deets to inspire anyone who’s had a dream to do something that scares you to do the damn thing!

Becoming… Brilliantly Better!

Becoming: the idea that each of us is perpetually changing, that our selves are ever evolving, not stopping at some set point — with the implication that we can always become better. (Michelle Obama)

Brilliant: a diamond or other gemstone cut in a particular form with numerous facets so as to have exceptional brilliance… the cutting and polishing of a diamond crystal always results in a dramatic loss of weight; rarely is it less than 50%. (Wikipedia)

I recently had a conversation with a woman who’s been retired for a year and is floundering. She went from a long, successful career to caretaking to being at a loss now of what to do with herself. She said, ‘You’re advised to get a financial plan for retired life, but not a life plan.’ She was used to having a structure (work, caretaking) and didn’t know how to create a new one that’s internally motivated instead externally obligated.

Oh mylanta! This is so familiar and so different. After I retired, I was in burnout recovery mode, determined to never ‘work’ again. When people kept calling me for coaching, I followed through on an old desire to go through O Magazine’s life coach extraordinaire, Dr. Martha Beck’s life coaching school. I had no intention to start a business. I was keeping my skills up for ?? This is what unconsciously following your inner compass looks like. In the midst of that 9-month certification, I got a business license. A few years after receiving more coaching, I got clarity on my purpose and legacy:

helping women take intentional action in their post-retirement chapter to truly live their best life.

If you’ve been following this blog, you know I’ve been on a mini-break to become even better at serving you AND living my best life. Stepping back to move forward and…

It’s On and Poppin!

Everything ain’t for everybody. (Jill Scott)

Sooooo… in June, cReneCoach is bringing you new opportunities to drop your shxt (mental, physical, and emotional weight) and walk into YOUR Exceptional Brilliance! Becoming the YOU it’s time for you to become. Now.

If you’re scare-cited about that, that’s a great sign! If you’re just scared, then what I’m serving may not be for you. The women I serve take action through fear, invest in their change with time and/or dollars, and have a soul-deep craving to live that best life because…

“…the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” (Anais Nin) Those women!

#LetThatShxtGo! #ItsYourTime #MidlifeManifest

P.S. I want to hear from you! Respond to this email on what you need to get about living that life you’ve been craving!

  1. I’m doing free mini-sessions on practical ways to rewire your life. How to choose better thoughts that fuel better actions. How to let negative emotions work for you instead of against you. How to incorporate pleasure as a daily practice. Tell me topics you’d like addressed by sending me an email.
  2. Mark Your Calendars for the 4-Day Take The Trip Challenge, June 11-14th, 11:30am – 12:00pm CST: Kick off your summer Getting Unstuck and Moving FORWARD! Clear Emotional and Mental crap. Take life-enhancing local excursions. Plan that BIG trip you’ve been dreaming about. There will be: Fun. Prizes. Change. Yasss!!
  3. Two opportunities to travel your way to your change:
    NYC September 12-15 …The Big Bite of The Apple and Portugal September 16-20… The Midlife Manifest Retreat; only 8 spots available for each trip. Full details coming in June. Put your name on the first dibs list by sending me an email.

Money Doesn’t Guarantee Time

Ok, I’m out!

Confirmed news junkie that I am, periodically I need a break. Especially during this sunken place period of 1600 Pennsylvania Ave idiocy.

Crime, disasters, terrorism, car wrecks, fires, tsunamis, plane crashes, illness and death.

Bad as the news is, I usually circle back around to the blessings of life and what I CAN control in the midst of sometimes overwhelming feelings of helplessness: being intentional about how I spend my time.

This really hit home through one of the tragic stories coming out of the senseless Sri Lanka bombings. The richest man in Denmark, Billionaire Anders Polvsen, lost three of his four children in the attacks. Horrendous!

I respect money for ALL of the benefits it can provide. I absolutely do. But money doesn’t protect us from the arbitrariness of life and death. I believe in the omnipotence of God, while accepting that I’m not omnipotent.

So, with each moment, hour, day that I’m graced to experience, I purpose to live them as deep, wide, and gratefully as possible. Wasting time being afraid to live in and on purpose is just that… a waste of time and supremely selfish. More people benefit from our best than our barely!

I frequently talk to women who say “one day,” “someday,” “need to”, “ought to,” “should but,” etc.

I work with women who say, “ENOUGH!” “I’m giving myself,” “allowing myself,” “reclaiming my time,” “because if not now, when?”

Which one are you?

P.S. If you’re ready, let’s talk. It’s a free life enhancing conversation that will leave you in a better place. Schedule here.

Have Your Rituals Become Ruts?

ritual: any practice or pattern of behavior regularly performed in a set manner

rut: a fixed or established mode of procedure or course of life, usually dull or unpromising

When you see or hear the word ritual what comes to mind? Holidays? Religion? Family? Vacations?

My mom’s death in 2011 upended most of my rituals. She was the queen of ‘this is what you do when…’ and while my poor dad tried his best to maintain the ritual traditions (until his death last year), they’ve never been the same. And why was I holding on to ‘same’? Holding on to the impossible? Thankfully, I’ve finally let that shxt go!

Everything must change,

Nothing stays the same.

Everyone must change

Nothing stays the same.

The young become the old,

Mysteries do unfold.

‘Cause that’s the way of time...
(Songwriter: Benard Ighner © Universal Music Publishing Group)

It can be harrrrrd to let go of what can no longer be or what no longer serves us. The more I thought about my now being an adult orphan, the more I began to see ‘new’ instead of only loss. In examining and reassessing rituals, habits, traditions, etc., I’m struck by how close the definitions of ritual and rut are to each other. What I’m finding is that many of them are ‘shoulds’ that I’m more than happy to let go:

  • Mr. Washington and I have very different temperature preferences in hotel rooms and instead of our both being miserable, we either get adjoining rooms or a suite with multiple rooms and bathrooms so we can dress in comfort.
  • The church that most aligns with my spiritual, cultural, and political beliefs is a Baptist church in Alexandria, VA (it’s had female deacons since the ’70s!). YAYYY for live streaming.
  • I’m in the third year of renting a vehicle. Originally it was because my car died, we were planning to leave the country, and I didn’t want to purchase and then store a car. Family illnesses kept us stateside and now I do it because I LOVE driving with no maintenance accountability.

What ruts are you stuck in that are clothed in habit, ritual, tradition, or shoulds and oughts?? Make a list and assess. One of my favorite things to do with my clients is bust through one of their ‘shoulds’ they accept as fact. And let me tell you, if you want to drop some weight, release your shoulds aka shxt.

#LetThatShxtGo! #ItsYourTime #MidlifeManifest

Special Opportunity!
Be one of 50 smart women making a small commitment of time and money to reap the HUGE payoff of finally living life grounded in their priorities… not obligations. Send an email saying ‘Yes! to this blog post ASAP and get full details on the May 3rd, Retire to Thrive Workshop. We’re saving you gas (it’s online) and sending you swag (YAY!) PLUS there’s a Juicy Bonus for the first five paid participants (a TWO hour follow-up coaching session with me!). Response deadline is Wednesday, May 24th! See full details here.