Be Careful What You Ask For…

This is always spoken in a tone of foreboding, right? Patience, more money, new love. Be careful, because the troubles will come in order for you to receive it. It’s a feast or famine mentality that keeps us living small and supposedly safe.

I chose ‘systems’ as my word for the year because I ended last year on fumes and needed better organization for the back-end of my business. Whew! I hired a kick-A online business management group (The Launch Guild), and while transferring everything over to them to set up new work structures hasn’t been fun, I can already tell a difference in HOW I work. Their structures are forcing me to be more structured.

Schedules. Structures. Routines. I ran from these words because they didn’t represent freedom to me. I left the corporate grind to do what I want, when I want. As with most things, it’s the happy middle that wins the day! Yes, in corporate, I was under someone else’s dictates. Now, CHOOSING the schedules, structures, and routines that work for the way I opt to live my life IS the path to freedom. I didn’t hire a new hammer. I hired accountability to help me get what I want.

So, yes … I’m careful in what I ask for, not out of fear of the path to getting it, but in the assurance that it’s truly what I want. It’s this same kind of accountability that gets my clients what THEY want.

#LetThatShxtGo! #ItsYourTime #MidlifeManifest

P.S. Ready for what you’re asking for? Here are three paths to getting it: (Serious action-takers, go straight to #2!)

  1. Join The Midlife Manifest Group and connect with other women who are in midlife transition. This is my Facebook community where successful retire-to-thrive women learn how to get more ‘who I am’ clarity, stop living hijacked lives, and live in purpose with passion. Click here to join.
  2. Sign up for the Midlife Manifest Sistermind. I just kicked off my transformation that sticks program. If you’d like to learn what you need to do to make serious life changes in 2019, reply to this email with ‘I’m Ready’ in the subject line.
  3. Work with my team and me privately. If you’d like to work directly with my team and me to help you live a more passionate and FREE life, simply reply to this message and put “Private” in the subject line. Tell me a little about your life and what you’d like to work on together and I’ll get you all the details!

Did Someone Throw Me In The Path Of An 18-Wheeler?

Recently, my back was giving me fits. A simple turn on a flight pulled a muscle that threw me into tremendous pain. After rest, home remedies, and even a muscle relaxer from the doctor didn’t completely rid me of the pain, I decided to try one more thing: more movement. I returned to my strength training sessions and went to a new class called POUND.

POUND is “the world’s first cardio jam session inspired by the infectious, energizing and sweat-dripping fun of playing the drums.” Had a blast! The instructor warned us that we’d be really sore the next day, which only slightly registered with me because beating sticks to movement didn’t seem that intense. WRONG!! The next morning, places in my body that I didn’t know existed hurt like hell! And it was strength class day! I made it to class that day and the life metaphor was clear to me:

Good pain squashes bad pain.

By the end of that week, I was still exercise-sore, but the pull in my back was gone. Yessss!! And this is what I also experience … what my clients experience with life change.

Deciding to leave that long (and ‘safe’) career, eliminating toxic relationships, starting a business, drawing strong boundaries, taking a chance on new love … these are HARD decisions and transitions. And when I say good, I don’t mean feel good, I mean necessary pain. Because on the other side of good pain…

FREEDOM!

When my clients struggle with making the tough moves, I ask, “Are you suffering now?” The response is always, “Yes!” And my response is always, “Then stop suffering for more suffering and make your suffering count for your good.” Creating a strategy for living life on YOUR terms is the best thing you can do for yourself. This quote from an 86-year old trapeze artist I saw featured on the news keeps bubbling up: “I do what I love and I do it TOTALLY.”

For me … for my clients, it’s TOTALLY from here on out! What about you??

#LetThatShxtGo! #ItsYourTime #MidlifeManifest

P.S. If you know the value of good pain, here are three ways I can help you get you to your TOTALLY:

  1. Join The Midlife Manifest Group and connect with other women who are in midlife transition. This is my Facebook community where successful retire-to-thrive women learn how to get more ‘who I am’ clarity, stop living hijacked lives, and live in purpose with passion. Click here to join.
  2. Sign up for the Midlife Manifest Sistermind. I just kicked off my transformation that sticks program. If you’d like to learn what you need to do to make serious life changes in 2019, reply to this email with ‘I’m Ready’ in the subject line.
  3. Work with my team and me privately. If you’d like to work directly with my team and me to help you live a more passionate and FREE life, simply reply to this message and put “Private” in the subject line. Tell me a little about your life and what you’d like to work on together and I’ll get you all the details!

My Dating Profile

A lot of people have mixed opinions on dating profiles and I’ve admittedly been on the ‘not for me’ side of the equation. Recently, my opinion evolved … not to start dating. I’m married to the incomparable Mr. Washington, so that’s out. LOL! A dating profile is all about distilling your amazingness into a few questions to attract the right one for you. It can feel like a lot of pressure, but after seeing some friends experience success with it, I now find the process can be a cool way to get clarity on what you want. For fun, I decided to create a little dating profile here but with a twist. It’s my “dating profile” for the type of women I LOVE working with the most. I guess it’s my “business profile.”  

Here we go:

Name: c.Rene Washington aka The Mindset Maven

Occupation: Life Coach

Self-Summary: I help successful midlife career women let their shxt go and rock their retirement years by living in their purpose and passion!

I’m a kick-ass master certified life coach who helps women flip their ‘everybody else’ script to one that prioritizes their dreams and desires because I believe midlife years are the best years for women to fully step into their power and passion.

I’m Really Good At: Giving premium support to women who want to maximize their post-career years by getting rock solid certainty on who they are, what they want, the plan to get it … and keep it.

Interests: Broadway FAN-atic. Hubby road trips. Girlfriend excursions. Books. ALL the arts(dance, great t.v., movies, art exhibits). Coaching retreats. Jigsaw puzzles. Shaking my groove thing. Dessert.

What I’m looking for: Midlife women near the end of successful careers who are ready to focus on themselves and want more than a financial plan, you want a life plan OR you’re already retired and need a pivot plan

Favorite quote:  Let that shxt go!

You should message me if… you want to create a life strategy that frees you from living other people’s priorities and lets you FINALLY live that life you’ve been craving.

(P.S. — You really can message me here or here)

#LetThatShxtGo! #ItsYourTime #MidlifeManifest

Passion: My Drug of Choice

Remember the day

I set you free

I told you you could always count on me…

I have many passions: my faith, Mr. Washington, my family, my girlfriends, coaching women, racial and social justice, women’s empowerment, books, movies, television, Broadway, travel, Norman Love chocolates, sunshine, sunflowers…the list goes on.

What I’m most passionate about: reveling in these passions and discovering new passions.

I’ve enjoyed wonderful life experiences but it wasn’t until my late forties that I experienced deep, unabiding passion and understood why once you do, it’s life altering and expanding.

There is no passion to be found playing small—in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. —Nelson Mandela

Not settling.

#LetThatShxtGo! #ItsYourTime #MidlifeManifest

P.S. If you’re settling for playing small, here are three ways I can help you get hooked on your passions:

  1. Join The Midlife Manifest Group and connect with other women who are in midlife transition. This is my Facebook community where successful retire-to-thrive women learn how to get more ‘who I am’ clarity, stop living hijacked lives, and live in purpose with passion. Click here to join.
  2. Sign up for the Midlife Manifest Sistermind. I just kicked off my transformation that sticks program. If you’d like to learn what you need to do to make serious life changes in 2019, reply to this email with ‘I’m Ready’ in the subject line.
  3. Work with my team and me privately. If you’d like to work directly with my team and me to help you live a more passionate and FREE life, simply reply to this message and put “Private” in the subject line. Tell me a little about your life and what you’d like to work on together and I’ll get you all the details!

Your Better Yes

Every choice is a decision to do one thing and not the other thing(s).

When I chose to retire from my corporate career, I chose undefined freedom over structured employment. When a client chose to run in the New York City marathon, she sacrificed a lot of time that could have been spent doing other things to prepare. And she finished the marathon!

What I love about her story is that she didn’t seriously prepare to run until several months before the marathon. She works full-time and wasn’t sure that she could get herself back in shape in time. She’d been hiding behind complacency and faulty self-perception (I don’t LOOK like a marathoner so I can’t BE a marathoner… even though she’d run marathons in the past.).

She let that shxt go!

It was her slowest and most difficult marathon. She pushed through severe cramps, shooting arch pain and I’m sure a desire to quit with every pounding step. But she didn’t.

I don’t ascribe to the Never Quit mantra. I believe in quitting things and people that have become toxic or no longer serve you. Quitting on myself? Never! And that’s what my client’s marathon represents: A woman who made a decision to not quit on herself! She chose her Better Yes. Not the easiest. Not even the most (seemingly) logical.

Her Better Yes.

This is the courage, grit, and resolve I help clients tap into and create a midlife they’ve only dreamed about.

Choose Your Better Yes.

#LetThatShxtGo! #ItsYourTime #MidlifeManifest

P.S. If you’re ready to say Yes to You, here are three ways I can help:

  1. Join The Midlife Manifest Group and connect with other women who are in midlife transition. This is my Facebook community where successful retire-to-thrive women learn how to get more ‘who I am’ clarity, stop living hijacked lives, and live in purpose with passion. Click here to join.
  2. Sign up for the Midlife Manifest Sistermind. I just kicked off my transformation that sticks program. If you’d like to learn what you need to do to make serious life changes in 2019, reply to this email with ‘I’m Ready’ in the subject line.

Work with my team and me privately. If you’d like to work directly with my team and me to help you live a more passionate and FREE life, simply reply to this message and put “Private” in the subject line. Tell me a little about your life and what you’d like to work on together and I’ll get you all the details!

What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid? (3-minute Read)

Hello Beautiful!

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

I asked this question in my Midlife Manifest facebook group (join here) and got some really interesting answers. What’s most interesting is that I know every desire could be achieved by the woman who shared it.

Every. One.

As I’ve shared before, there’s real fear and F.E.A.R. (false evidence appearing real).

What if you fail? What if you look stupid? What will people say? What if you waste money? What if it hurts?

What if you do, they do, you do, it does?

What if you don’t, they don’t, you don’t, it doesn’t?

The image above is me three years ago embarking on a voyage (voyage not cruise) from New York City to the UK on The Queen Mary 2 ocean liner (ocean liner not ship). It was a voyage I took with my coach to learn how to lead amazing retreats and the big bonus for me was that we’d be going to Downton Abbey filming locations. The Queen Mary 2, a city unto itself, was my home for five days and truly an experience of a lifetime. Three big takeaways:

  • The voyage was in November and we hit a major storm that shook that 79,300 ton people-mover like it was a tug boat! I was so end-in-mind focused on the What (retreat training/Downton Abbey) that I didn’t think much about the How (the actual journey). That was a good thing! Because I would have ‘f.e.a.r.ed’ myself out of a ‘gift that keeps on giving’ journey. There were hundreds of multi-timer voyagers on the trip who took it all in stride and NOBODY DIED (ain’t gonna lie that I didn’t consider that titanic possibility LOL).
  • Every YES I gift myself exponentially expands my vision for living this second half in purpose and passion. I did visit the Downton Abbey locations…including dining with Jessica Fellowes (author of the show’s companion books) at the phenomenal Clivedon House, the hotel Duchess Meghan’s mom stayed the night before the royal wedding. I had high tea at the London Ritz (the presentation, the scones, OMG!!), and made new connections to incredible women, I may have never met otherwise.
  • I made a huge dollar investment (several thousand) to go on that coaching retreat and THAT’s what my fear was based in: was I crazy to spend that much money?? When I was going through the potential danger of the real storm…something I hadn’t even considered, I had to laugh. This is life! No matter how careful or how crazy we’re being, storms will come. I’d rather be in the midst of accomplishment than in complacency.

I will ALWAYS choose to walk fearLESSly towards realizing my dreams because I know NOTHING is wasted. I worked hard to earn this rewired retirement life. That doesn’t mean I feel no fear, it means I feel less fear…just enough ‘less’ to take a step. The lessons and the blessings come in ways that continue to stun and amaze me. “And I wouldn’t take nothing for this journey.” (Maya Angelou)

So again, I ask: What would you do if you weren’t afraid? I’d LOVE for you to send me your responses. And for a longer conversation, you can schedule a life strategy session here.

#MidlifeManifestSistermind #TheRewiredRetiredLife

P.S. Ready to start working your post-career plan or retired and need a new plan? Join the Midlife Manifest facebook group, here, where there’s ongoing opportunity to learn, grow, and rock your best life!

Rockin’ The Radio

Hello Beautiful!

I’m rockin’ the airwaves today and would LOVE for you to join me! I’ll be on Tapping Queen Keisha Dixon’s What About Me? show. See her invite below.

Annndddd…to honor Love Month and my love for YOU, I’m dropping short Self-Love Bombs everyday starting tomorrow. So check your inbox for a quick audio message to jumpstart your day and/or click here to join Midlife Manifest, my free facebook group for more connection and tips on how to fully revel in this best half of your life!

From Keisha: “Join me on http://www.wjmsradio.com/whataboutme, this Sunday at 2pm CST/3pm EST as my guest C René Washington, Master LifeCoach and Mindset Maven drops gold nuggets on how to Manifest In Midlife.

C René Washington motto is: Let That Shxt Go — and I seriously can’t wait to talk about it!

This show promises to be full of all the life and wisdom that is C René Washington.”

#MidlifeManifestSistermind #TheRewiredRetiredLife

c.ReneCoach.com

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Oops! Corrected Link: Dream Manifested (3.5 Minute Read)

Hello Beautiful!

Before you read, listen to a short message from me, here.

Six years ago, I left my 28-yr corporate career, two years before official retirement because I was operating on fumes. Yes, the company had changed, but that was distracting me from a bigger truth.

I had changed.

My next chapter was nudging and pulling me and my ignoring it to do the ‘right thing’ (staying) was only accomplishing my dragging myself through slow death.

Death of spirit. Delayed dreams.

“There are truths we face and truths we ignore.” ~ Michelle Obama 

And since I experienced a TIA (mini-stroke) several years earlier that I know was stress induced, I was possibly teasing actual death.

So, I left…with no plan other than living free. 

Fast forward to today. I’m a master certified life coach, retreat leader, and creator of the Midlife Manifest Sistermind . This past weekend, I became a motivational speaker, launching the Self-Love Explosion Tour…Where Power and Passion Meet! with three other fabulous life-changers!

When I left my company, I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I only knew what I had to leave. My main concern was making sure I could eat and keep a roof over my head. Now, I know that financial planning is only one piece of your life plan post-career. It would have been great to go through a process that uncovered and connected me to my Who, What, and How at this stage of life. If you’re like me, it’s murky because most of us have been focused on other people’s priorities/problems, paying little or no attention to our own. So you flounder or you keep suppressing and ignoring YOU. Or you travel and shop yourself out, wondering if there isn’t something more. There is.

I could have saved myself a whole lot of time if I’d been smart like one of my clients, who hired me when her youngest child was a high school senior, to create her next chapter plan. Since then she’s started two successful businesses. Or another smart client who’s on a three year plan to walk into her dream of running a charity. Or another client who retired and we worked out a plan for her to draw strong boundaries around her time and dip her toe in some opportunities to see how they fit before fully committing. 

Nope! I bolted on fumes and figured it out on the back-end. I’ve had loads of fun and although, it’s worked out beyond my imagination, I knew there had to be an easier path. So I created it. That’s the mission of the Midlife Manifest Sistermind: showing women how to create and implement your set-me-free plan to living life on your terms.

Dream manifested.

Confusion. Tears. Wanting to give up. Meeting amazing people. Awesome collaborations. Witnessing women step into their power and passion. A wonderful mixed bag. Not easy. Absolutely necessary.

What life do you want to create? What are you waiting on?

It’s your time. I’M LOOKING FOR TEN WOMEN TO JOIN ME!

Set your vision. Get your mind right. Take action.

#MidlifeManifestSistermind #TheRewiredRetiredLife

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are three ways I can help you get (and keep) that life you say you want:

  1. Join The Midlife Manifest Group and connect with other women who are in midlife transition. This is my Facebook community where successful retire-to-thrive women learn how to get more ‘who I am’ clarity, stop living hijacked lives, and live in purpose with passion. Click here to join.
  2. Sign up for the Midlife Manifest Sistermind. Get yourself in my signature program for women who are done with hoping and are ready to take action. If you’d like to learn exactly what you need to do to make serious life changes in 2019 and GO ON THE CELEBRATION RETREAT TO PORTUGAL, let’s talk! Schedule a life strategy session here.
  3. Attend a LIVE event.  The Self-Love Explosion Tour...Where Power and Passion Meet! I, and three other motivational movers and shakers, will be dishing ‘get your life’ self-love bombs during a not-to-be-missed event! Check this link to find out when we’re coming to a city near you (it will be updated as new cities are scheduled).

Mindset and Vision

“I reflected on how an employment situation can provide income, yet not wealth stability or freedom. That comes largely from mindset and vision.”

Hello Beautiful!

That quote is from Mavis Jaye, a wise and wonderful member of my Midlife Manifest facebook group and the Midlife Manifest Sistermind. She’s on the receiving end of the ridiculousness that is the government shutdown and in spite of the kraziness, is choosing to glean wisdom from it.

I’m praying that calm, collected, and caring heads will prevail to return people to work asap! And this is a good time for all of us (unless you’re dealing with basic survival) to set a vision for our lives…one that is not dependent upon or impacted by the whims and delusions of foolish leaders, bosses, family members, friends, or perfect strangers. That’s the mindset piece. Because shxt is always happening.

No matter our best efforts, we can’t control everything that happens to us. We can only control our reaction to it. Helping women do this is my zone of genius.

A circumstance prompts what you think and prompts what you feel which prompts what you do. That space between the circumstance and the thought is where your choices start. Choose well.

Set your vision. Take action. Get your mind right.

#MidlifeManifestSistermind #TheRewiredRetiredLife

P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are three ways I can help you get (and keep) that life you say you want:

  1. Join The Midlife Manifest Group and connect with other women who are in midlife transition. This is my Facebook community where successful retire-to-thrive women learn how to get more ‘who I am’ clarity, stop living hijacked lives, and live in purpose with passion. Click here to join.
  2. Sign up for the Midlife Manifest Sistermind. Get yourself in my signature program for women who are done with hoping and are ready to take action. If you’d like to learn exactly what you need to make serious life changes in 2019, reply to this email with ‘I’m Ready!’ in the subject line and I’ll get you all the details.
  3. Attend a LIVE event.  The Self-Love Explosion Tour...Where Passion and Power Meet, kicks off January 26th in Sacramento, CA!! Me, and three other motivational movers and shakers will be dishing ‘get your life’ self-love bombs during a not-to-be-missed event! Share with anyone you know in that area. Click here for info and tickets.

Special Time-Sensitive Notification

ATTENTION MANIFESTERS: Today’s the day the “What About Me” broadcast is being taken over by the hosts of the Self-Love Explosion Tour: Where Passion Meets Power!! Join host Keisha Dixon for the excitement as she interviews Lynnis Woods-Mullins; Dravon James and Me at 2pm CST/3pm EST on http://www.wjmsradio.com/whataboutme. Listen LIVE!

SHARING IS CARING: FORWARD TO YOUR BESTIES!

#MidlifeManifestSistermind #TheRewiredRetiredLife


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