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Autobiography In Five Chapters
1) I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost… I am hopeless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.
2) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I’m in the same place.
But it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
3) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in… it’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
4) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
5) I walk down another street.
From: Sogyal Rinpoche, The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying
What are your dreams for 2020? If you really sit down and think about it, what do you want to create in your life for the year ahead? And more importantly, how do we make that a reality? Well, hopefully you’ll find the answer for you in today’s episode.
We’re into the last quarter of 2019, and as our focus shifts to what the next year has in store for us, I want to focus your attention onto ending your year strong, giving you the best possible platform for living your best life in 2020. This is the first of a seven-week series that will see you take control of your life and your future.
8 years ago, on October 5th, my mom, Barbara Ann Williams, unexpectedly made her transition…felled by a pulmonary embolism. It was a horrendous shock to all who knew and loved her.
Almost 7 years ago, I ended a 28 yr corporate career, spurred in part by her death.
6 years ago today, I married Mr. Washington, a force-of-never-boring-nature and my partner in a new life of love, passion and adventure.
5 years ago, I became a life coach. Since then, I’ve helped many women make major life moves re relationships, careers, and dream fulfillment. Freedom and Purpose! The most successful ones have this in common:
They count in minutes, hours, and days.
They want change NOW and take targeted action to get it. The more their choices scare them, the better their lives become!
I’ve been saying that mom’s death taught me how arbitrary LIFE is, but I got it wrong. It’s DEATH that’s arbitrary. Making it to midlife means you’ve made a zillion life choices. But death? Outside of suicide, we don’t get to choose the moment. I’m continuously surprised by who dies and who doesn’t. And there’s more than one way to die, such as complacency, inertia, delusion.
87 days from now, 2019 ends. What will you do to make those days count? What, in your heart of hearts, do you want to celebrate on December 31st? What barriers to that celebration do you need to remove?
I’m helping you answer those questions and more on my free Midlife Woman Redefinedpodcast series, End Like You Want To Begin. The series covers dropping mental, environmental, and physical weight plus how to add daily pleasure. Podcasts are free and this one is only a short investment of time. No excuses! Click here to listen.
One of Mom’s favorite’s was The Serenity Prayer. Not accepting what can’t be changed keeps us stuck. Changing what can is the path to Peace, Love, and Joy.
What are you choosing? Wisdom or waffling?
And if you’re truly ALL about your change, then choose personalized coaching accountability for the podcast series through this special offer: The Rock2020 Sessions, 4 coaching sessions Plus for $1200. Click here for details.
Last week, I brought you the Should Show. This week, I’m bringing you the Shit Show – specifically how to shed your shit so you can fly. So it’s time to start taking account of what’s weighing you down.
It’s getting to that time of year where we’re thinking about our goals for the next one, so I’d also like to introduce to you a new series that I will be starting next week, which I’m calling End How You Want to Begin – a seven-week journey for you to eliminate what’s holding you back, so you can end 2019 the way you want to start 2020.
I coach some amazing women in my coaching practice, but they all live under the tyranny of the same one thing: their shoulds – the shit that you are conditioned to think you should be doing. Well, I also lived under the oppressive dictatorship of shoulds and oughts, but not anymore, ladies.
There is so much societal pressure around religion, gender, and just about anything else you care to imagine. I have made decisions based on what I should do earlier in my life. However, when I stepped out of that and discovered my musts in this life, everything changed for the better.
We have reached a mini-milestone on the podcast: the 10th episode of the show. Now, when I started my business, I did not think it would involve a podcast. But since I got started, I haven’t looked back. I’m here living my dream, and it is truly giving me life every single day. However, the path to my dream, that was a little more challenging.
I want to take this opportunity to share with all of you – all of you who maybe don’t know what your dream is yet – how I found my true passion and calling in life. I always wanted to help women. I’ve known that for a long time. But what I have created for myself now is something I could never have predicted.
“A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture, and transform.” ~ Diane Mariechild
Feeling ALL of that right now!
What’s Your Bigger Why?
I awoke NOT feeling like going to our strength training class. As I lay there, I secretly wished Mr. Washington was feeling like playing hooky, but wasn’t hopeful. He stays pretty gung ho about the class. Lo and behold, his first words were, “Let’s stay in today.” Music to my ears! And WOW, that’s some kind of manifesting, right? Except it wasn’t. Tempted as I was, I knew what we wanted more than slugging the day away, was staying committed and consistent to our ‘health for life’ plan. So, I reluctantly responded, “No.” Commitment won! Later, we were both very glad we stuck to it.
What do you want more of in your life?
Strength? Health? Pleasure? Adventure? Wealth? Connection? What dream do you want to become real?
We’re entering the last quarter of the year. Are you on track to get what you want? Or are you procrastinating, self-sabotaging, hiding, etc.?
The reviews are coming in and the Midlife Woman Redefined podcast is a hit! Our first winner of the Amazon gift card giveaway will be announced during this Wednesday’s episode. Click here to listen and subscribe. You’re missing life-altering messages that will help you kick off 2020 right if you don’t! And please SHARE. Friends don’t let friends miss a good thing!
We Have Not Because We Ask Not
Remember the local talk show (Talk of Alabama) appearance I did? View here if you missed it. I pitched them to return for THREE MORE EPISODES and they said YES!! Mark your calendars for October 2nd, November 1st, and December 2nd.
I’m challenging you to make a Big Move. I pitched the show because my coach challenged us to be bold and go after what we want. You can too! Maybe there’s a tough conversation you need to have OR a health appointment you need to make, OR that trip you’ve been wanting to take. Whatever it is…Go For It! And send me an email telling me what you did so we can celebrate together!
Sometimes in life, we think things are going great, but then we get a little surprise – something we did not see coming. That’s an emotional flag on the play of our lives. I want to preface this whole episode by saying that I am not a football fan, but this is the perfect metaphor for what I’ve got for you today.
I was in a situation recently where a medical professional informed me of my weight. This might sound familiar to you too. I was heavier than I anticipated, and all of a sudden, my thoughts exploded. I was left thinking about everything I had done wrong, every decision I had made that contributed to this number on the scale, and what it meant about me as a person. This is the worst train of thought I could have gotten on at this point.
I told you all a couple of weeks ago about my amazing trip to celebrate my 60th birthday, and I’m still riding that high. However, when I returned, I did have to go see my physician about some issues I encountered while traveling. I’ll say now, it turned out to be nothing serious, but it did provide me with a little bit of perspective.
As we reach midlife, it can be easy to let the things that give our life passion start to slip away. We don’t always want to, but all we see are limitations. That is not something I want for myself, and it definitely isn’t something I want for you.
In October 2016, I took the stage in my favorite New York City. I and five incredible women I’d only met a few months before put ourselves on that stage to tell our individual stories of courage. It was early in my entrepreneurial journey and I was terrified of making a fool of myself!
I didn’t. We didn’t. We connected. We inspired. We changed lives, including our own.
People without fear don’t need courage. Read. That. Again.
Courageous people tap into their Do It Afraid muscle.
Since that NYC event, I’ve helped hundreds of women make courageous moves and transitions:
End dead relationships
Start new life chapters
Have tough, necessary conversations
Move to a new city
Take the dream trip
Give themselves permission to Enjoy Life!
“Success is loving life and daring to live it!” ~ Maya Angelou
And the most daring thing you can do? Trust Yourself.
The highlight reel of my life since that NYC event is book-worthy as is the lowlight reel: relationship drama, illness, money drama, grief, and slap wanting to give up on this business thing every few months!
But, though I’m the queen of Letting Shxt Go, I never give up on myself or the women who gift themselves with daring to live their best lives!
LOOKING FOR A FEW MORE DARING WOMEN
I’m EXCITED for the women who, in spite of their fears, said YES! to the It’s My Birthday coaching offer. They’re taking a stand for their lives and getting a great jump on 2020 being their best year yet!
And because I want to leave no (willing) woman behind, I’m nudging you to grab the remaining spots. Help Me Help You is the name of these ear bangers, a wonderful client gifted me for my birthday. Note the blank space. For me, it represents what I help you fill in with what you want for your life.
Another client gifted me with the Courage bangers. This is what I do: Step courageously down the path I choose for my life and help other women find their courage to do the same.
60 days of individual coaching for $600. A safe, non-judgmental space for only 24 women that won’t be offered again. 2020 is coming. Dare yourself to get that life you’ve been craving by clickinghere.
Oh, and Yogi Dada, the artist who creates these FAB earrings was so inspired by my work, she’s giving a 10% discount in my honor (it ends in October)! Go to her website and use code cReneCoach at checkout. How cool is that! Yep, she has smaller sizes AND she’s including her print work in the discount deal which almost never happens!
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