I was having problems recording an episode of the Midlife Woman Redefined podcast and contacted my editor for assistance. He told me that I needed to install the latest MAC system upgrade and when I tried doing that, I got the message that I didn’t have enough bandwidth for my upgrade. (the tech gremlins love torturing me and Still I Persist! LOL)

Woooooo Sa! That immediately hit me as a life and coaching metaphor because to increase my bandwidth, I had to

DELETE A BOATLOAD OF FILES!

Helloooo! I know this is clicking for you as it did for me (Mavens are smart!) and I have two questions for you:

What and Who do you need to delete to get more bandwidth for your life upgrade?

What or Who is stopping you from doing it? (This Who is YOU boo!)

Ready to bust through your fears and get that upgrade? Here’s how I can help:

1. The Midlife Woman Redefined podcast is your (free!) weekly mini coaching session that’s all things Life Goals. Subscribe here.
2. I have space to coach a few more women through leaving your shxt in 2019 and sailing strong into 2020, but jump quickly! This offer ends Sunday November 24th. Click here for your life change.
3. One of my clients shared this wonderful article on what self-care really is about and it’s the perfect guide for tamping down holiday stress. Click here. Thank you, Wendy Greene!
4. Live in the Birmingham, AL area?? Come to the Midlife Woman Redefined Meetup! We meet monthly on the third Tuesday of the month and it’s happening Tuesday 11/19 at 6pm. Click here for meeting details.
5. Treat Yo Self!! I’ll be sharing this fave video clip through the rest of the year for more self-care inspiration…and do it often, not just once a year! Click here.

Hello Mavens!

Once again, I almost let F.E.A.R. (false evidence appearing real) shut me down and sabotage my ability to grow my business. What tripped me up? I sent a request to be a guest on another podcaster‘s show who talks about midlife to get more exposure for my podcast. That didn’t scare me. She would either say yes or no.

What she said was: “Instead of your coming on my show, I will be a guest on your show and promote it to my audience.” THAT freaked me out and my inner mean girl (I call her EgoR for Ego René) started yapping.

You haven’t interviewed anybody! She’ll see what an amateur you are and cancel. She’s got a huge audience and you’re going to make a fool of yourself. Yada Yada Yada

What was actually true?

I was a recruiter and manager in my previous life and have years of interviewing experience. My zone of genius is coaching people through getting the change they want and I do that through asking intuitive questions in conversations. Hellooooo!!Thanks

This is what we do. We let Ego take over and take us out…sabotage us from moving forward and Getting What We Want. And this is the shxt we need to let go!

ENOUGH!

My coaching is grounded in mindset work because I know from personal and client experience that Getting Your Mind right is the only path to desired change that last. The first 20+ episodes of the Midlife Woman Redefined Podcast all focus on mindset work. Once the End Like You Want to Begin series is completed in a few weeks, the show will be focused on women who are living the Bolder, Braver, Better life! We experience F.E.A.R., but we don’t let it keep us Living Our Best Lives in all the messy gloriousness that comes from rising above surviving to THRIVING.

I did do the interview…after sitting in F.E.A.R. for almost a month! And my first podcast guest, Mary Rogers, host of the Experience50 podcast was Fantabulous! Check out her wonderful podcast here. I had krazy tech issues, a freak storm that knocked out my power causing us to have to reschedule and through it all, she hung with me to get it done. And she didn’t know me from Eve! Get yourself subscribed to the podcast to hear this interview and the End Like You Want to Begin series.

I LOVE this graphic AND I’m here for the Take Action Mavens who are READY and who will Do The Work to Level UP in the new decade that kicks off in 2020. I’ve got a list of Fear-less women who will be sharing their How I Do It stories. I’m doing a Black Women In Love series that ALL women will want to hear and I’ll be covering all things how to live Braver, Bolder, and Better!

Subscribe, Buckle Up, and let’s FLY!!

P.S. The Mary Rogers interview airs Wednesday. If you’re not subscribed to Midlife Woman Redefined, stop right now and fix that here! Podcasts are a free, enlightening opportunity to learn, laugh, cry, and grow, .

Hello Beautiful!

Talking to myself and sharing with you:

1. Most of us are afraid of something.
2. Everybody’s got shxt (personal or family).
3. Let your shxt go. Daily is optimal.
4. NIKE your life and “Just Do IT!” Whatever IT is for you. (And I LOVE how sprinter Alysia Montano NIKE’d NIKE in supreme fashion!

Are Your Listening? We’re in the middle of the End Like You Want To Begin series on the Midlife Woman Redefined Podcast. To kick off 2020 in the best way possible, I’m walking you through all of the ways we trip ourselves up on the way to getting the life we want. Catch up here. And I’m recording my FIRST INTERVIEW! Woo Hoo!! It’s with Mary Rogers, host of the fab podcast for midlifers, Experience50 and you don’t want to miss her life-kick story of midlife redefinition. I’ll keep you posted on the air date.

Back On The Tele! I have another appearance on the local show, Talk of Alabama this Friday. It airs at 9am CST on ABC33/40. Send up prayers and good thoughts for me!

Catching Up…on the Outlander tv series. I watched the first season then planned to read all of the books before going back to the show. Ummm, the show is five seasons in and I haven’t read one book! LOL!! Gave up that delusion and watching is wonderful escapism. Highly recommend if you love historical fiction.

What I Am Reading…I’m a few chapters in Ta-Nehisi Coate’s first novel, The Water Dancer and I’m hooked!

The Clock Is Ticking! I won’t be coaching one-to-one OR offering my group coaching program, The Midlife Manifest Sistermind in 2020. If you’ve been wanting to work with me, I’m taking a few more clients before the year ends. Don’t dither, jump on this opportunity. Lives are being changed! Click here for the ROCK2020 details.

Who’s feeling it? A little anxious, off kilter, confused, maybe even overwhelmed? Raising my hand! I’ve been here before and the difference now is that instead of being bummed about it, I’m excited. Because, what I know for sure is that this fog signals something new and wonderful is in gestation.

On the Midlife Woman Redefined podcast, I’m walking listeners through deep mindset shifts: environmental, emotional, physical, and experiential. And I’m doing the work with you. Head-in-sand doesn’t work…especially at this stage of life. What you suppress will keep nudging you until it’s addressed. Relationship drama, career burnout, martyred obligations, health issues…whatever’s weighing you down will only get heavier if you keep ignoring it.

For me, it’s about making a pivot to work less. I’m in Florida with Mr. Washington. We came to connect with some of his former co-workers and I was pleasantly surprised by our hotel location: a resort on Neptune Beach and a room with an ocean view. It’s been an enjoyable low-key time of ocean-gazing, boutique/bookstore browsing, and indulging my ice cream passion at Whitt’s Frozen Custard.

More. Of. This.

The weekend has validated what’s been nudging me and my self-coaching brain knows better than to ignore it.

What are you ignoring? What transformation is calling you?

To catch up on the End Like You Want To Begin series on the Midlife Woman Redefined podcast, click here

I have space for 5 one-to-one clients before the end of the year. Last date to start your 4-session ROCK2020 package is November 22nd. Want more information on working with me, click here to schedule a life strategy call.

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I could go on. I’m grateful to coach incredible women who know and act upon the value of investing time and dollars in their change. And I walk my talk. I invested in myself this year to strengthen my coaching skills AND realize long-held dreams:
– Led women through major life change in the Midlife Manifest Sistermind
– Took a two week 60th birthday extravaganza trip to France and Morocco
– Launched the Midlife Woman Redefined podcast
– did T.V. appearances on a local general interest show
– Writing a book (stay tuned!)
– Collaborating with two other powerhouse women to create an online course (capturing past life genius for the greater good and posterity) for midlevel managers who’ve hit a ceiling they can’t crack

The commonality between my clients and myself is that we are NOW women! We have fears, doubt, and confusion and we RISE above them to thrive!

Clearly, I have lots of thoughts and I also have lots of passion for lighting the path for a woman to free herself!

IF YOU’RE READY TO LIGHT UP YOUR LIFE LIVING REALIZED DREAMS, WE NEED TO TALK ASAP!

I’m offering a 4-session Power Up to ROCK2020 package for $1200. Next year, I’ll only be offering the Midlife Maven Sistermind, a 9-month commitment for ALL-In women. So if you’re ready, LEAP! The opportunity for this time frame and investment will end November 22nd. Click here for details. My team or I will get on a call with you to answer questions. No hard sale. If working with me isn’t the best option, we’ll direct you to a better one. Schedule here.

If you could do it on your own, you would have done it.

I love revisiting the wisdom below. And if you’re ready to walk a different street, I got you! Subscribe to the Midlife Woman Redefined podcast. I’m doing a series on getting the jump on 2020 called, End Like You Want to Begin. It’s better than a Netflix binge and it’s free! Click here to start listening or catch up.

Oh, and for the deep dive mavens, I got you too! A 4-session coaching package, The Rock2020 Sessions, to ensure you get your change. Click here for details then shoot me an email to jump in and break your ‘same street’ habit. Treat Yo Self!

Autobiography In Five Chapters

1) I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost… I am hopeless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

2) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I’m in the same place.
But it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

3) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in… it’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

4) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

5) I walk down another street.

Portia Nelson
From: Sogyal Rinpoche, The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying

Life & Death: How Are You Counting?

8 years ago, on October 5th, my mom, Barbara Ann Williams, unexpectedly made her transition…felled by a pulmonary embolism. It was a horrendous shock to all who knew and loved her.

Almost 7 years ago, I ended a 28 yr corporate career, spurred in part by her death. 

6 years ago today, I married Mr. Washington, a force-of-never-boring-nature and my partner in a new life of love, passion and adventure.

5 years ago, I became a life coach. Since then, I’ve helped many women make major life moves re relationships, careers, and dream fulfillment. Freedom and Purpose! The most successful ones have this in common:

They count in minutes, hours, and days. 

They want change NOW and take targeted action to get it. The more their choices scare them, the better their lives become!

I’ve been saying that mom’s death taught me how arbitrary LIFE is, but I got it wrong. It’s DEATH that’s arbitrary. Making it to midlife means you’ve made a zillion life choices. But death? Outside of suicide, we don’t get to choose the moment. I’m continuously surprised by who dies and who doesn’t. And there’s more than one way to die, such as complacency, inertia, delusion.

87 days from now, 2019 ends. What will you do to make those days count? What, in your heart of hearts, do you want to celebrate on December 31st? What barriers to that celebration do you need to remove?

I’m helping you answer those questions and more on my free Midlife Woman Redefined podcast series, End Like You Want To Begin. The series covers dropping mental, environmental, and physical weight plus how to add daily pleasure. Podcasts are free and this one is only a short investment of time. No excuses! Click here to listen.

One of Mom’s favorite’s was The Serenity Prayer. Not accepting what can’t be changed keeps us stuck. Changing what can is the path to Peace, Love, and Joy. 

What are you choosing? Wisdom or waffling?

And if you’re truly ALL about your change, then choose personalized coaching accountability for the podcast series through this special offer: The Rock2020 Sessions, 4 coaching sessions Plus for $1200. Click here for details.

Quote of The Week

“A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture, and transform.” ~ Diane Mariechild

Feeling ALL of that right now!

What’s Your Bigger Why?

I awoke NOT feeling like going to our strength training class. As I lay there, I secretly wished Mr. Washington was feeling like playing hooky, but wasn’t hopeful. He stays pretty gung ho about the class. Lo and behold, his first words were, “Let’s stay in today.” Music to my ears! And WOW, that’s some kind of manifesting, right? Except it wasn’t. Tempted as I was, I knew what we wanted more than slugging the day away, was staying committed and consistent to our ‘health for life’ plan. So, I reluctantly responded, “No.” Commitment won! Later, we were both very glad we stuck to it.

What do you want more of in your life? 

Strength? Health? Pleasure? Adventure? Wealth? Connection? What dream do you want to become real?

We’re entering the last quarter of the year. Are you on track to get what you want? Or are you procrastinating, self-sabotaging, hiding, etc.?

Woo Hoo!

The reviews are coming in and the Midlife Woman Redefined podcast is a hit! Our first winner of the Amazon gift card giveaway will be announced during this Wednesday’s episode. Click here to listen and subscribe. You’re missing life-altering messages that will help you kick off 2020 right if you don’t! And please SHARE. Friends don’t let friends miss a good thing!

We Have Not Because We Ask Not

Remember the local talk show (Talk of Alabama) appearance I did? View here if you missed it.  I pitched them to return for THREE MORE EPISODES and they said YES!! Mark your calendars for October 2nd, November 1st, and December 2nd. 

Your Challenge

I’m challenging you to make a Big Move. I pitched the show because my coach challenged us to be bold and go after what we want. You can too! Maybe there’s a tough conversation you need to have OR a health appointment you need to make, OR that trip you’ve been wanting to take. Whatever it is…Go For It!  And send me an email telling me what you did so we can celebrate together!

#LetYourShxTGo! #TimeToRedefine

In October 2016, I took the stage in my favorite New York City. I and five incredible women I’d only met a few months before put ourselves on that stage to tell our individual stories of courage. It was early in my entrepreneurial journey and I was terrified of making a fool of myself!

I didn’t. We didn’t. We connected. We inspired. We changed lives, including our own.

People without fear don’t need courage. Read. That. Again.

Courageous people tap into their Do It Afraid muscle.

Since that NYC event, I’ve helped hundreds of women make courageous moves and transitions:

• Change jobs
• Start businesses
• End dead relationships
• Start new life chapters
• Have tough, necessary conversations
• Prioritize themselves
• Move to a new city
• Take the dream trip
• Give themselves permission to Enjoy Life!

“Success is loving life and daring to live it!” ~ Maya Angelou

And the most daring thing you can do? Trust Yourself.

The highlight reel of my life since that NYC event is book-worthy as is the lowlight reel: relationship drama, illness, money drama, grief, and slap wanting to give up on this business thing every few months!

But, though I’m the queen of Letting Shxt Go, I never give up on myself or the women who gift themselves with daring to live their best lives!

LOOKING FOR A FEW MORE DARING WOMEN

I’m EXCITED for the women who, in spite of their fears, said YES! to the It’s My Birthday coaching offer. They’re taking a stand for their lives and getting a great jump on 2020 being their best year yet!

And because I want to leave no (willing) woman behind, I’m nudging you to grab the remaining spots. Help Me Help You is the name of these ear bangers, a wonderful client gifted me for my birthday. Note the blank space. For me, it represents what I help you fill in with what you want for your life.

Another client gifted me with the Courage bangers. This is what I do: Step courageously down the path I choose for my life and help other women find their courage to do the same.

60 days of individual coaching for $600. A safe, non-judgmental space for only 24 women that won’t be offered again. 2020 is coming. Dare yourself to get that life you’ve been craving by clicking here.

Oh, and Yogi Dada, the artist who creates these FAB earrings was so inspired by my work, she’s giving a 10% discount in my honor (it ends in October)! Go to her website and use code cReneCoach at checkout. How cool is that! Yep, she has smaller sizes AND she’s including her print work in the discount deal which almost never happens!

#LetYourShxTGo! #MidlifeManifest

P.S. Get the weekly motivation I’m serving up on The Midlife Woman Redefined podcast. The reviews are coming in 5-star strong!! Go here to listen.

P.P.S. Want to hear my NYC Courage talk? Click here

Whew! A few days ago, I returned home from an epically spectacular 15-day celebration of my upcoming 60th birthday. I and (at varying points) 9-11 FAB girlfriends + one FAB friend’s FAB daughter, laughed, explored, ate, shopped, and remained in a constant state of amazement traveling through Paris, Sarlat, and Marrakech. Exhausted, Yes! And wonderfully forever changed. Too many highlights to detail to here, but best believe I’ll be talking about them for months to come. Indulge me. LOL

On March 30, 2017, I published the original blog titled Who Said. It featured the phenomenal Tao Porchon Lynch, the world’s oldest yoga teacher (101!!). My message was about ditching old paradigms that no longer serve you to flow freely in your unique desires.

One huge paradigm I ditched is thinking I have to always be comfortable to be happy. Yes, I have some foundational comfort requirements, but I’ve also learned that getting comfortable with being uncomfortable is the ticket for feeling F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real) and doing The Thing anyway! I didn’t let F.E.A.R. keep me from…

• investing a year out in Tracey Friley Travel’s Josephine Baker-themed trip to France and Morocco…
• trusting that inviting my girlfriends to go with me on a two week trip would be well and end well (we’re already talking about the next adventure!)…
• planning my own birthday parade and party in Paris, a city I’d never visited (it was FANTABULOUS!)…
• hiring a band (recommended but still) unknown to me (they rocked it OUT!)…
• wearing a mini dress for that party (see pic above), driving an ATV, walking through streets during a holy feast day in which goat heads and bodies were being chopped, charred, and fleeced!

Recently, I saw this Zig Zigler quote,

“F-E-A-R has two meanings: ‘Forget Everything And Run’ or ‘Face Everything And Rise’. The choice is yours.”

This woman is RISING. And I want ya’ll to RISE with me! Who Said you can’t??

P.S. As you can see, I’m in over-the-top mode for this milestone birthday and if you’re a Woman Ready To Redefine and Rise, then…

• you want to jump on an over-the-top opportunity to be coached by me for 60 days at a ‘never coming again’ investment of $600!! I’m only taking 24 women (1959 birth year equals 24) and you must be qualified to be sure it’s a great fit for both of us. We start September 1 and end November 8. Respond ‘I’m Ready! to this email to get full details.
• listen to the new podcast, Midlife Woman Redefined for a weekly injection of how to Rise and Fly! Click here to listen and subscribe!