Since August 2, I’ve been in a constant state of awe. Maybe you’ve heard, that I’m celebrating my 60th year on a FANTABULOUS trip to France to Morocco…and 12 girlfriends are with me for some or all of the trip. In Paris, a band I hired, danced us to our dinner boat down the Seine River…all a surprise to my girlfriends. Yes, I throw my own parties!

And that’s only ONE ah-mazing jaw-dropping event we’ve enjoyed!  My vocabulary fails me in describing the awesomeness of this experience, but what doesn’t escape me is this:

Many of you reading this blog are aching for Joy, Ah-mazing, and Wonderful to knock on your door. Well, let me clear this up for you right now:

They aren’t coming! You have to choose them. You have to get out of your own way and grab them! 

So because I’m tremendously GRATEFUL for being well enough down the Let Your Shxt Go road to choose Joy, Ah-mazing, and Wonderful for MY life…

And because I’m GRATEFUL for the clients who work with me to choose it for THEIRS…

And because I’m BEYOND BLESSED to crack another decade, excited about what more Ah-mazingness is waiting on me…

I’m doing a one-time Get Your Life NOW! coaching birthday offer that won’t be seen again: 

60 DAYS of COACHING FOR $600!!!!

Shhhh…don’t tell my business coach, Rachel Rodgers! She’ll slam me for charging below my regular investment. This is NOT about devaluing, though. 

It’s about my remembering my journey to freeing my mind and seeing my life follow!  It’s about wanting to help more women do the same.

My coaching changes lives. The value on that is priceless. The $600 (normally $3200) for 60 Days is my birthday gift to a few great women. 

I’m only doing it for 24 TAKE-ACTION WOMEN (if you love whine with your cheese, don’t respond). 

So jump quick! Why 24? Because I was born in 1959 and the digits add up to 24. 

What you get:

– 4 one-to-one calls with me (two per/month,1 hour duration)

– Text/email access to me during business hours (you’re getting concierge coaching for TWO MONTHS!)

– A life-changing Action Plan

– A time frame that keeps you on track (60 days must be completed between September 1 – November 14)

How you get it:

– Respond to this email, saying Yes! Now’s my time!

– Respond to the short questionnaire you’ll be sent.

– If approved (I’m serious about only working with Take Action women!), you’ll receive an invoice and a scheduling link.

Get a Kick-Ass coach for 60 days for $600??!! If you’re serious about getting that life you keep saying you want, then THIS is the sign you’ve been waiting on.

Don’t F.E.A.R. yourself out of ending 2019 and stepping in to 2020 like, 

P.S. Are you listening to The Midlife Woman Redefined podcast?
If you aren’t, fix that now! Click here.

Before I walk on the stage, I have this pit in my belly. It tightens and pushes against something inside of me. I want to walk away (wait I really want to run away) because I’m not sure I can do this in front of this group of people. I don’t know if they will nod and affirm my words. I don’t know if the audience is going to look at me like I’m crazy. I stand there, and I wonder if I should do this. Then, I cuss aloud.

Eff—-this. I’m not giving in to this fear.

I walked out onto the stage and delivered my five-minute story like a fearless and magical midlife maven.

A week later, I was featured on a television show to promote my podcast. 

Right now, I’m in Paris celebrating my 6th decade. 

In a few months, I will travel across the sea to another continent to share this journey of living happier with a group of amazing women. 

It’s all because I decided to unfriend FEAR and block her access to my brain and my body.

After years of working on this fear mindset that would attempt to take over my body and talk me out of my destiny and happiness more often than not, I am finally saying Eff- FEAR. If you’ve never met fear, you’re a lucky woman. However, if you know fear like I do, you understand the trauma and drama fear can bring into your life. Fear is the lame frenemy who doesn’t want you to do more, live better, and be happier because you’ll have to leave her behind. 

F.E.A.R. (false evidence appearing real) will have you living in a proverbial cardboard box if you don’t tell her to sit down and shut up. The box that fear keeps you in says you have to stay at that job until you turn 65. The box that fear keeps you in says you have to hold onto those friendships that side-eye you for wanting to travel the world. That box that says you can’t live out your dreams because you’re past some magical age (Lie!!)

So, how do you get out of the BOX, unfriend F.E.A.R., and STOP living small?

1. Release the norms of society.​ 65 (or whatever # you’re ‘shoulding’ yourself) is not the age that activates true living. That age is whatever number you want it to be.

2. Start thinking BIGGER.​ If you think you would like to travel to Jamaica, turn that into a bigger vision of traveling to every Caribbean island within six months.

3. Drop the naysayers.​ If you have friends who tell you of all the things that could go wrong, drop them. Yep, I said it. Drop them. We want to surround ourselves with solution-focused individuals, not naysayers.

4. Take a RISK!​ The only way to get out of the box is to JUMP, LEAP, DIVE, & FALL. Yep, I said fall…ALL of these actions will mean you may fall…and that’s fine.

5. Pat yourself on the damn back.​ You are doing what others are too scared to do (see how FEAR shows up), and you’re handling your business. Pat yourself on the back. Pay yourself. Treat yourself (here’s a trip to Europe with me if you wanna GO BIG or GO HOME).

How are you going to unfriend FEAR during the next 30 days?

Drop a comment and let me know what your plan is to LIVE BIGGER for the rest of 2019.

I retired from my company two years before my official retirement date because everything in my being was telling me that chapter had closed, regardless of the corporation’s prescribed (and arbitrary) timeline.

Doing this resulted in my not getting retiree health (marrying a good government man took care of that LOL) and not becoming a member of the retiree group called Trailblazers. It’s a good group and one I don’t miss because,

I. Blaze. My. Own. Trails.

How?

1. I know who I am.
2. I know what I want. Self-knowledge clearly connects me with what I want. 
3. I go get what I want.
4. I do the foundational work to keep it. Free your mind and your ass will follow.
5. Rinse. Repeat. Have fun. Trail blazed.

I don’t wait on anyone to throw me a party. (My 60th celebration is going to be one for the history books! Me + plus ten FAB girlfriends in Paris, the Dordogne Valley, and Marrakesh searching for Josephine Baker!!)

I don’t wait on anyone to go on a trip with me.

A rule is subject to be broken if it makes no sense to me.

I’m inspired by other trailblazers, but I stay focused on MY path.

When the going gets too tough, confusing or krazy, I get/hire help: coaching, therapy, medical. 

I value me. I invest in me. 

All of these ‘I’s’ open space for me to give my best to YOU.

So, how do you blaze a trail? By being and doing YOU.

#LetYourShxTGo! #MidlifeManifest

P.S. If you’re a trailblazer who needs a reset, I got you. See below.

• ReTREAT Yo Self! I’m leading TWO retreats in September!! One to New York City and one to Lisbon, Portugal!!  Both retreats will be design-your-life focused and the jumpstart you need to GET MOVING! Because they include specially curated activities and one-to-one coaching, I’m only taking FIVE women per retreat and spaces have sold. If you’ve been on the fence about working with me, LEAP! My retreats are (proven) FAB opportunities to get quick life turnaround! Click here for details.
• Need coaching and want to talk about all your options, schedule a consult here.
• My podcast launches July 31st!!! Follow my Wednesday newsletter for behind-the-scenes details. What dreams are you sitting on? If you’re not on my email list, subscribe here to follow my path to dream realization.

One of my biggest motivations for coaching woman on how to let their shxt go and thrive in freedom is having had a mini-stroke at age 45. I had no warning triggers, other than being stressed as hell during that time in my life. Here are some facts:

“Despite increases in awareness over the past decades, only about half (56%) of women recognize that heart disease is their number 1 killer:

* Heart disease is the leading cause of death for women in the United States, killing 299,578 women in 2017—or about 1 in every 5 female deaths.”

* Heart disease is the leading cause of death for African American and White women in the United States. For Hispanic and Asian or Pacific Islander women, heart disease is second only to cancer as a cause of death.” (World Health Organization)

My neurologist told me that the only reason I had a stroke instead of a heart attack is because the clot bypassed my heart and went to my brain.

I heeded the warning from the universe and over the next several years, I shed what I knew was no longer healthy for me to keep: 

a marriage 
a career
other people’s opinions
fear of making a mistake

THIS IS NOT A DRESS REHEARSAL.

Life is arbitrary and someday is TODAY.

What do you want to do? 

Stop waiting for a sign. 

The craving for better is your sign! 

Please pass GO!

P.S. For women ready to stop wasting time…wasting life…

• ReTREAT Yo Self! I’m leading TWO retreats in September!! One to New York City and one to Lisbon, Portugal!!  Both retreats will be design-your-life focused and the jumpstart you need to GET MOVING! Because they include specially curated activities and one-to-one coaching, I’m only taking FIVE women per retreat and spaces have sold. If you’ve been on the fence about working with me, LEAP! My retreats are (proven) FAB opportunities to get quick life turnaround! Click here for details.
• My podcast launches July 31st!!! Follow my Wednesday newsletter for behind-the-scenes details. What dreams are you sitting on? If you’re not on my email list, subscribe here to follow my path to dream realization.
  

I’m an SDJ (self-development junkie). Not because I’m broken (although there have been times when I was!), but because I love getting better. I stand with Michelle Obama in believing we are Becoming until we die. And better at this stage of life is about shedding old paradigms, rules (who said??!), and resented obligations.

And better isn’t always easy. There’s no secret or magic bullet for it. 

It’s about Getting Aware and staying Open.

It’s about Connection.

Connecting to your inner truth and guiding light.

Connecting to what you want more than you’re afraid of it.

Connecting to your Ikigai. Say what???

This graphic is the visual for the Japanese concept of Ikigai.

“The term ikigai is composed of two Japanese words: iki referring to life, and kai, which roughly means “the realisation of what one expects and hopes for.” Unpacking the word and its associated symbol a bit further, ikigai is seen as the convergence of four primary elements:

* What you love (your passion)

* What the world needs (your mission)

* What you are good at (your vocation)

* What you can get paid for (your profession)

The word ikigai, that space in the middle of these four elements, is seen as the source of value or what make one’s life truly worthwhile. In Okinawa, Japan, ikigai is thought of as “a reason to get up in the morning.” (From the article, Finding Your Reason For Being, http://upliftconnect.com/ikigai-finding-your-reason-for-being/)

I’m calling out ALL the SDJs! 

Do you want to know your reason for being? 

Or do you know but you aren’t living it??

Then THIS is your Summer to Slay That Shizz!

If not now, when??

P.S. For the I’m Ready Action Takers!

• ReTREAT Yo Self! I’m leading TWO retreats in September!! One to New York City and one to Lisbon, Portugal!!  Both retreats will be design-your-life focused and the jumpstart you need to GET MOVING! Because they include specially curated activities and one-to-one coaching, I’m only taking FIVE women per retreat and spaces have sold. If you’ve been on the fence about working with me, LEAP! My retreats are (proven) FAB opportunities to get quick life turnaround! Click here for details.
• My podcast launches July 31st!!! Follow my Wednesday newsletter for behind-the-scenes details. What dreams are you sitting on? If you’re not on my email list, subscribe hereto follow my path to dream realization.
• Today’s the last day to Treat Yourself to listening to a wonderful interview series I participated in: Awakened Midlife…How to Love and Enjoy Your Body Now hosted by Keren Brown, CPCC. Click here for full access to the series. 

At the end of your life, you don’t regret what you did, you regret what you didn’t do.

Do the damn thing!

I’m sharing the Midlife Manifest Manifesto I created:

Read it. 

Speak it out loud. 

Live it.

#LetYourShxtGo! #MidlifeManifest

P.S. Ways I can help you let go and do it:

• Treat Yourself to listening to a wonderful interview series I participated in: Awakened Midlife…How to Love and Enjoy Your Body Now hosted by Keren Brown, CPCC. Click here for full access to the series. 
• ReTREAT Yo Self! I’m leading TWO retreats in September!! One to New York City and one to Lisbon, Portugal!!  Both retreats will be design-your-life focused and the jumpstart you need to GET MOVING! Because they include specially curated activities and one-to-one coaching, I’m only taking FIVE women per retreat and spaces have sold. If you’ve been on the fence about working with me, LEAP! My retreats are (proven) FAB opportunities to get quick life turnaround! Click here for details.
• My podcast launches July 31st!!! Follow my Wednesday newsletter for behind-the-scenes details. What dreams are you sitting on? If you’re not on my email list, subscribe here to follow my path to dream realization.

Do you follow The Fly, Hip, and Ageless on social media? I love their short spot on messages on living YOUR Best Life, unapologetically.

“Look at your daily habits and ask yourself if they are causing you to evolve or revolve. Are you moving forward or just moving in circles?”

FHA tagged this post, Sunday Self Audit and it’s what I’m adopting (stealing LOL!) as an add-on to my current Sunday practice of assessing the week ahead and deciding how I want that week to end.

If you followed the Passport To Midlife Freedom Challenge, ask yourself the question above. Ask it even if you didn’t follow the challenge. If you’re good with continuing to revolve, STOP READING. Keep reading my blog until you’re ready.

I work with take-action-I’m-worth-the-investment women!

If that’s you and you’re ready to EVOLVE, then there’s One Simple Action for you to take: Put yourself on my calendar to talk about what that looks like for you.

I have several options, some include working with me (VIP days, retreats, or deep work over several months), …some don’t (referrals to other resources). This is a two-way street that must work for both of us, NOT take all comers.

Take the trip. Get your life. Schedule a consult. Now.

Schedule on this link, ConnectWithRene.com

P.S. I’m launching a podcast July 31st!! Stay tuned for the backstory on my podcast launch journey and how to listen.

Passport to Midlife Freedom Challenge!

DAY TWO STARTS IN ABOUT 90 MINUTES AT 11AM CENTRAL STANDARD TIME. YOU WANT TO BE THERE! DETAILS BELOW.

When: Tuesday June 25 – Thursday June 27, 11:30am – 12:00pm CST
Where: In the Zoom Room
Who: The woman who’s seriously ready to ditch fear and reclaim your life!
Why: Because suppressing the truth of who you are is unhealthy… even dangerous.

Join Zoom Meeting
https://zoom.us/j/926889577

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Dial by your location
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Meeting ID: 926 889 577
Find your local number: https://zoom.us/u/aKlk3a0i

If you’ve never used Zoom before, make sure to click the link a few minutes early to install it on your desktop and join us.

“I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I’ve just lived the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.” ~ Diane Ackerman

Don’t miss this FREE opportunity to…

– Learn the FIVE journeys that will set you free (four of them you can take from home!).

– Get the One Question that changes everything.

– Commit to 90 minutes over 3 days that end with your knowing exactly how to 180 your life.

– Independence Day is coming. Let those fireworks be in honor of YOUR declaration of freedom!

Buy those ‘red glasses,’ woman… whatever represents busting out of that box for you!

See you in the Zoom room!

I can’t get her out of my head.

The woman I wrote about who was hesitating over choosing the funky red glasses because she might be judged. Who then went on to say that she knew it was time to break out of the box she’d created for herself over the years. That she used to be much more adventurous and she wanted to get back to that person and travel.

We shared a few minutes at an eyewear trunk show. I hope she went back and bought those glasses. I hope she’s booking those trips.

And because I can do more than hope with YOU, I’m challenging YOU to participate and take meaningful action in the

Passport to Midlife Freedom Challenge!

When: Tuesday June 25 – Friday June 28, 11:30am – 12:00pm CST
Where: In the Zoom Room
Who: The woman who’s seriously ready to ditch fear and reclaim your life!
Why: Because suppressing the truth of who you are is unhealthy… even dangerous.

Join Zoom Meeting
https://zoom.us/j/926889577

One tap mobile
+16468769923,,926889577# US (New York)
+16699006833,,926889577# US (San Jose)

Dial by your location
+1 646 876 9923 US (New York)
+1 669 900 6833 US (San Jose)

Meeting ID: 926 889 577
Find your local number: https://zoom.us/u/aKlk3a0i

If you’ve never used Zoom before, make sure to click the link a few minutes early to install it on your desktop and join us.

“I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I’ve just lived the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.” ~ Diane Ackerman

Don’t miss this FREE opportunity to…

– Learn the FIVE journeys that will set you free (four of them you can take from home!).

– Get the One Question that changes everything.

– Commit to TWO hours in 4 days that end with your knowing exactly how to 180 your life.

– Independence Day is coming. Let those fireworks be in honor of YOUR declaration of freedom!

Buy those ‘red glasses,’ woman… whatever represents busting out of that box for you!

See you in the Zoom room on Tuesday!

What do you want to do?

Why aren’t you doing it?

What do you want for your life?

Why don’t you have it?

Well, it’s complicated. (you say)

Maybe. Maybe not. What it really is…is a decision.

Four months ago, the women in my Sistermind made a decision to stop lying to themselves about why this or that wasn’t happening and to instead trust themselves to do something about it. Now, they’ve made huge shifts that are translating into tangible action.

This week, I was told that a woman who attended the Self-Love Explosion Tour (the FAB speaking event my partners and I run) was moved and inspired to make a major life move that had been nudging her. She made a decision and took the leap after hearing our messages.

My talk was on Taking The Trip: the mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and/or experiential journeys we need to take to live the lives we say we want to live. The aforementioned women are on their respective journeys and Life Is Good! The self-knowledge they’ve gained is priceless and has flipped their externally focused script re what they can or cannot do. They love and own their freedom to be whoever they choose to be. They made a decision. So, I ask again:

What do you want?

Why don’t you have it?

Make a decision.

Take the trip.

P.S. I love working with decision-makers! If that’s you, pick an option below.

1. Two opportunities to travel your way to your change: Passport To Midlife Freedom Retreats
   NYC September 12-15 and Portugal September 16-20; There are only 5 spots available for each trip. Full details in this week’s newsletter!
2. Ready for deep dive coaching? Schedule a call with my team to determine your best path on this link, cReneCoach.com.
3. Start working through what you need to release to clear space for what you want. I created a FREE resource, The Tolerations Checklist that helps you Let That Shxt Go! Click here.